To Be Or Not To Be Ourselves

Many of our relationships, whether we like it or not, place restrictions on us that prevent us from being ourselves. Whether for occupational, familial, or political reasons, we cannot fully open up to everyone, in every way, in every circumstance. If we do, not only will we jeopardize the relationships themselves, but also our reputations…

On Suffering And Healing

Our ability to be useful, to be effective in our relationships toward a positive end, is largely contingent upon our ability to understand our own pain and suffering, and to use that understanding to help and to heal ourselves and others. The exact details, circumstances, and causes of our individual suffering may differ from those…

You Are Doing Too Much

“It’s not what you aren’t doing, but what you are doing that’s wrong.” —Joe Sheya One of the criticisms I heard most often from my first martial art teacher was that I was doing too much. I was complicating the techniques that, in his mind, were actually quite simple, by doing a lot of unnecessary…