On Fear And Vulnerability

Vulnerability opens the door to empathy. Deep down, we all know that we are imperfect. Our greatest fear is that this imperfection makes us unloveable. Whether we admit it or not, we are all waiting for or looking for, a person who will see, not see past, our flaws, failings, and shortcomings, and who will…

What Do You See?

When you look at someone you love, do you see the ways in which they are being their best or the ways in which they are failing to meet your expectations, and perhaps even their own? In our own ways, we are all trying. Some of us have more success than others and some of…

Imperfection and Compassion

The path to compassion begins by accepting that perfection is fantasy. Perfection is simply something that we imagine, an unattainable ideal that we project onto ourselves and others. Perfection is a false idea and a false ideal. It is our belief in perfection, for ourselves and others that sets us up to be disappointed when…

Preferences as a Path to Understanding

We don’t have to care about the things that other people care about, but, if we want to be of service, we should still care about fact that they care about those things. We each like and care about different things for different reasons. If we want to be effective, useful humans, we must look…

Forgiveness Precedes Forgiveness

Mistakes are nothing more than an opportunity for improvement. There are very few things in this world that are unforgivable if we are sincere in our attempt to do better. That said, other people may not forgive us, but, if we are honest about our error, if we admit fault, and if we try to…