Choosing Change (Facing Trauma)

Our scars remind us how we got here, but they should not dictate where we go next. Whether internally, externally, or some combination of both, trauma alters us. It changes our shape. It changes the way we move, the way we perceive ourselves and the world, and it changes the way we relate to others….

For Better And Worse (On Healing)

Being afraid of being judged is not the same as being tired of being judged. While we must learn to come to terms with the fact that, no matter who we are or what we do, not everyone will like us, we may never truly be comfortable with it. Criticism, condemnation, and judgement from others…

Changing Our Story (From Victim To Hero)

Our feelings are ours alone and it is up to us to change the narrative. Unless someone causes us some kind of direct physical harm, most likely the way that we feel about the actions of others toward us, good or bad, is more a matter of the story we tell ourselves about who we…

Change Of Choice

If energy can only be changed, not created or destroyed, we must decide what kind of change we are going to make with the energy we have. We do not get to choose all of the input we receive in our lives. We do not get to decide the circumstances we are born into and…

Damage Adds Texture

It is natural to fear being hurt and even to go to great lengths to avoid it, but pain is inevitable, unavoidable, and necessary for our growth and for the development our character. Pain, whether physical, psychological, or emotional, is part of what makes us human. Without it, we would have no motivation, we would…