On Non-Resistance (A Jiu-Jitsu Lesson)

Long-lasting solutions begin with empathy, not animosity. If we want to make a change in our lives, we will inevitably come up against resistance. Instead of perceiving this resistance as a negative thing, we should embrace it for the lessons it offers. Resistance forces us to know ourselves, our desires, our capabilities, and to adjust…

A Community Of Shared Intention

Look past disagreements of opinions and beliefs to see where intentions overlap. If all we ever see from one another is the most superficial aspects of our lives, there is no hope of having deep and meaningful relationships. Without deep and meaningful relationships, there is no possibility of creating a healthy, thriving community that works…

Return To Your Center (Be Kind)

Kindness is never a wasted effort. When we are kind to others, we begin to change and they begin to change. This change may not be immediately observable, by us or those to whom our kindness is directed, but a small change occurs with every exchange of kindness nonetheless. If applied consistently, these infinitesimal, often…

Love Requires Choice

Quite often, our love is measured in sacrifice. When we think about what love means, it is easy to conjure ideas about all of the things we give and receive in its name. We imagine the time, energy, and emotion that we put into our relationships and, in the same thought, we imagine how that…

Curiosity Over Contempt Or Concession

The opposite of contempt is not concession, but curiosity. When we disagree with someone, whether a family member, friend, or stranger, it is not necessary that we do so with negativity attached to it. It is quite possible to disagree with others, even passionately, while maintaining our own integrity and not allowing ourselves to slip…