On Fear And Vulnerability

Vulnerability opens the door to empathy. Deep down, we all know that we are imperfect. Our greatest fear is that this imperfection makes us unloveable. Whether we admit it or not, we are all waiting for or looking for, a person who will see, not see past, our flaws, failings, and shortcomings, and who will…

What Do You See?

When you look at someone you love, do you see the ways in which they are being their best or the ways in which they are failing to meet your expectations, and perhaps even their own? In our own ways, we are all trying. Some of us have more success than others and some of…

Preferences as a Path to Understanding

We don’t have to care about the things that other people care about, but, if we want to be of service, we should still care about fact that they care about those things. We each like and care about different things for different reasons. If we want to be effective, useful humans, we must look…

Forgiveness Precedes Forgiveness

Mistakes are nothing more than an opportunity for improvement. There are very few things in this world that are unforgivable if we are sincere in our attempt to do better. That said, other people may not forgive us, but, if we are honest about our error, if we admit fault, and if we try to…

Can You Live With The Worst I Have To Offer?

In any relationship, it is not the things that we like about another person, but the things that we don’t like, that we are committing to. If we spend enough time with a person, it is inevitable that we will find things that we do not like about them. When deciding if we want to…