Listen To The Person More Than The Message

We may disagree, but, if we can do so intelligently and compassionately, there is room for you in my life. Not everyone who disagrees with us is against us. In fact, some people actually disagree with us because they care about us and want to see us learn, grow, and open ourselves up to a…

Compassion at the Forefront

It’s easy to assume malicious intent when someone does or says something that hurts us, but a more likely reason for their behavior is simply that they do not know how to act differently. The fact is that people often do not even know that they are being hurtful when we feel that they are…

Generosity Toward The Selfish

Before criticizing a person who is selfish to the point of hurtfulness, consider how much fear and insecurity that person must have to believe that the only way to get ahead in life is to do so in spite of others. Selfishness, especially when taken to the extreme, is the outward manifestation of fear. It…

Distance for Self-Protection

Some of us need to protect ourselves from other people’s problems and personalities, and that’s okay. There are certain people who are empathetic to the point that they find it difficult to maintain boundaries between other people’s emotions and their own. They feel other people’s problems as if they are theirs as well. Depending on…

Communicating for Understanding

To communicate is not merely to speak, but to be heard, and, more so, to be understood. Often, we believe that simply by expressing ourselves that we are communicating. The problem is that communication is a two-way street. That which is expressed must actually be understood by the recipient in order for communication to have…