The Limitations of Kindness

Holistic Budo: As it is in budo, so too it is in life. As it is in life, so too it is in budo. Robert Van Valkenburgh is co-founder of Taikyoku Mind & Body and Kogen Dojo where he teaches Taikyoku Budo and Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu Artwork by Ana, except where otherwise noted If you found…

Silence and Integrity

We do not have to be rude to be authentic. If we have any kind of point of view, lots of people will say and do things that are in conflict with our opinions and beliefs. That is simply part of life. If we feel the need to react to every incidence of disagreement with…

Boundaries of Courage

If you don’t maintain your boundaries and someone else steps over them, it may not be their fault. It is our responsibility to know ourselves and where our boundaries are. This is one facet of having integrity. Integrity is not only about what we do, but about what we allow and tolerate into our lives….

A Truthful No Vs A Dishonest Yes

No one will like you less for saying you cannot do something than they will for saying you can, but not following through. We all get overwhelmed and overloaded at some point in our lives, especially with the constant barrage of input and information we have coming at us every day in our digital age….

Preparing for Spontaneity

Spontaneity is a powerful creative tool if it is preceded by careful planning and preparation. Spontaneity is synonymous with freedom. It seems counterintuitive then that the ability to be spontaneous in a way that serves us, instead of hindering us, is made possible by discipline and forethought in the form of careful planning and preparation….