Some Days

There will be some days when enough is all we can do. Life is difficult. Life is not fair. We will struggle. We will be uncomfortable. Not every day is going to feel like a win. Some days, we just make it through. This is part of the deal. If we want to feel joy,…

But Not Unnecessarily

While we should not turn away from difficulty purely for the sake of comfort, we also should not seek out difficulty unnecessarily for the sake of itself. Sometimes, things are difficult for no reason other than that they are difficult. Not all difficulty is meant to be faced head on, moved through, or overcome. Some…

Choosing Change (Facing Trauma)

Our scars remind us how we got here, but they should not dictate where we go next. Whether internally, externally, or some combination of both, trauma alters us. It changes our shape. It changes the way we move, the way we perceive ourselves and the world, and it changes the way we relate to others….

Changing Our Story (From Victim To Hero)

Our feelings are ours alone and it is up to us to change the narrative. Unless someone causes us some kind of direct physical harm, most likely the way that we feel about the actions of others toward us, good or bad, is more a matter of the story we tell ourselves about who we…

Damage Adds Texture

It is natural to fear being hurt and even to go to great lengths to avoid it, but pain is inevitable, unavoidable, and necessary for our growth and for the development our character. Pain, whether physical, psychological, or emotional, is part of what makes us human. Without it, we would have no motivation, we would…