The Warrior And The Healer (We Need Both)

Some of us were born for fighting and others for healing, but all of us are necessary. Within any given tribe, there are warriors and there are healers and neither is intrinsically more or less valuable than the other.* Each has a necessary role to play for the good of the tribe. Within every cultural…

Curiosity Over Contempt Or Concession

The opposite of contempt is not concession, but curiosity. When we disagree with someone, whether a family member, friend, or stranger, it is not necessary that we do so with negativity attached to it. It is quite possible to disagree with others, even passionately, while maintaining our own integrity and not allowing ourselves to slip…

On Suffering And Healing

Our ability to be useful, to be effective in our relationships toward a positive end, is largely contingent upon our ability to understand our own pain and suffering, and to use that understanding to help and to heal ourselves and others. The exact details, circumstances, and causes of our individual suffering may differ from those…

Preferences as a Path to Understanding

We don’t have to care about the things that other people care about, but, if we want to be of service, we should still care about fact that they care about those things. We each like and care about different things for different reasons. If we want to be effective, useful humans, we must look…

Prioritizing for Efficacy

If everything is important, nothing is important. When we combine the needs and wants of others with the things that we need or want to get done for ourselves, we quickly begin to realize that there is not enough time to accomplish everything or to satisfy every demand. One of the easiest ways to guarantee…