About Bullying

“Please believe me. I’m real. No, really. It happened. It hurt.”-Amanda Palmer, ‘The Art of Asking’ Bullying is a violation. It is an assault on a person’s mind, body, or emotions, an assault on a person’s boundaries and willingness to participate. It is willful antagonism, provocation, mockery and harassment. Bullying is the act of seeing…

Compromising Creates Conflict

Compromising our values so as to avoid conflict, in spite of our hopes, beliefs, or desires, creates dissonance not resolution. Avoiding conflict at the cost of what we hold true is neither a win for us nor for those to or for whom we compromise. Compromising on the truth, on our truth, leaves that truth…

Efficiency is Intentional Nonresistance

Force against resistance begets more resistance. While the goal of grappling, whether manifested as a throw, a pin, or a submission, is ultimately to impose our will on another person, this is much more easily accomplished if we can create circumstances within which our opponent actually gives us we want, instead of having to take…

Find Your Dynamic Center

One of the common themes among all grappling arts is a focus on stability as a fundamental principle. Whether called base, root, center, balance, or even frame or posture by some people, stability is an integral component of any grappling-based martial art. Whatever name we use for the concept, what we are talking about is…

Be Generous First

Sometimes the shortest path to getting what you want is to help others get what they want. We all need support and companionship to some degree or another as we move through this life. In spite of what some of us think or say, we cannot really and truly thrive alone and in isolation. We…