Giving In Means Missing Out

Going along with that which is easy, may cause us to miss out on that which is right. Acquiescence is an act of negative ego and unhealthy self-denial. When we acquiesce, we give up and give in, often to some decision or some path that we do not agree with. Acquiescence means going with the…

Fear of Success is Fear of Change

When another person tells you that your idea won’t work, it may be because they are afraid that it will. We should not take all feedback at face value. We must always consider the source, the source’s history, and the source’s agenda. It is very rare to find someone who is objective and transparent enough…

True Confidence Begins with Humility

“That’s the funny thing about confidence: the incorrect amount of it and nothing will ever happen.” —Robert Downey Jr. True confidence requires humility. Humility is the ability to see ourselves objectively, as we are, and to accept and embrace what we see, the good and the bad. Humility keeps us from straying too far into…

Facing The Challenge (To Who We Think We Are)

Who you think you are is your greatest obstacle to growth and progress along the way. We all step onto the mats with a certain amount of ego — a self-perception, self-protection, and self-projection — that we consciously or unconsciously hide behind. As we train, if we are being challenged in a safe and healthy…

Not Who You Are, But Who You Can Be

The goal is not to find someone with whom you can be yourself, but with whom you are better than you were alone. Too much time and energy is spent trying to establish and fortify our identity, the self that we present to the world and that we want the world to embrace, respect, and…