Changing Our Stories

We often find ourselves responding to others based on a story from our past instead of being with them in the moment. Our perception stems largely from a narrative created in our minds about who we are in the world. This narrative is amalgamated from our personal experiences, our family histories, and our moral and…

Learning From Failure

Allow the bad positions you find yourself in to be your teachers. Not much is really learned from doing well aside from learning that we should not take any risks that might jeopardize our success. The problem with this is that success does not teach us how to deal with failure. Success gives us tunnel…

What Is Your Story?

“There’s no such thing as a mistake. A mistake is an opportunity to do something else.” —Ralph Steadman The way we experience our life, the things we do, and the things that happen to us or around us, is quite often a matter of the story that we tell ourselves about these occurrences. In our…

Are You Truly Showing Up?

“Your take it or leave it attitude with your family is unacceptable.” — My brother For many years, I thought that honesty meant saying or doing whatever I felt, even if it hurt people, as long as I was being true to myself and my feelings. In fact, my basic stance was that if you…

Deliver Your Gift with a Hug and a Smile

It’s not always about your gift. It’s about how you present it to the world. Many years ago, when I was a technician for a large, corporate coffee company, I sat down with my supervisor to discuss a potential promotion. Another technician already had the position I wanted, but I made the case for why…