Anchors of Self Deception

That which we believe has propelled us forward may, in fact, be exactly that which has held us back. We do not and can not know everything about ourselves or the world we live in. We all hold onto false beliefs as a matter of self-protection because too much truth, regarding our flaws, our fragility,…

Listen To The Person More Than The Message

We may disagree, but, if we can do so intelligently and compassionately, there is room for you in my life. Not everyone who disagrees with us is against us. In fact, some people actually disagree with us because they care about us and want to see us learn, grow, and open ourselves up to a…

Compassion at the Forefront

It’s easy to assume malicious intent when someone does or says something that hurts us, but a more likely reason for their behavior is simply that they do not know how to act differently. The fact is that people often do not even know that they are being hurtful when we feel that they are…

Communicating for Understanding

To communicate is not merely to speak, but to be heard, and, more so, to be understood. Often, we believe that simply by expressing ourselves that we are communicating. The problem is that communication is a two-way street. That which is expressed must actually be understood by the recipient in order for communication to have…

Space to be Understood

Sometimes we must put off the need to be heard in order to be understood. Being misunderstood can leave us feeing powerless. This can lead to frustration. Sometimes, in an attempt to overcome our frustration, we try harder to be heard, thinking that if only we can explain ourselves better, if only we can get…