Choosing Change (Facing Trauma)

Our scars remind us how we got here, but they should not dictate where we go next. Whether internally, externally, or some combination of both, trauma alters us. It changes our shape. It changes the way we move, the way we perceive ourselves and the world, and it changes the way we relate to others….

Becoming The Listener

Hearing requires empathy. Often, our words fall short of what we truly mean to say and want to get across. There is a feeling, an intention behind what we are trying to say that we cannot quite capture with words, that eludes our grasp, and that misses the target we are aiming for. In spite…

Difficult Truths

We are not equipped to process difficult truths quickly. Difficult truths take time to understand, to accept, and to digest, sometimes even a lifetime. These truths take even longer before we can transform them into usable information that adds value to our lives, our relationships, and our communities. We have built in resistors. As a…

A Team’s Perspective

Teamwork is a matter of perspective. Demands, threats, and force may help us accomplish our immediate goals, but dictatorship is not leadership. True leadership requires that others follow us consciously, voluntarily, and willingly. This requires a shared perspective. In order for others to follow us by choice, of their own informed free-will, they need perspective….

Compassion For The Selfish

Before we judge a person for their selfish beliefs and behavior, we should consider the bigger picture of their support system or lack thereof. Some people are only out for themselves, looking at every situation and interaction from the perspective of personal benefit or personal loss, and never from what is best or even good…