For Better And Worse (On Healing)

Being afraid of being judged is not the same as being tired of being judged. While we must learn to come to terms with the fact that, no matter who we are or what we do, not everyone will like us, we may never truly be comfortable with it. Criticism, condemnation, and judgement from others…

Difficult Truths

We are not equipped to process difficult truths quickly. Difficult truths take time to understand, to accept, and to digest, sometimes even a lifetime. These truths take even longer before we can transform them into usable information that adds value to our lives, our relationships, and our communities. We have built in resistors. As a…

The Responsibility To Try

Healing occurs in the effort. It is okay to fail. Not all things will work out the way we want or hope. As much as our efforts and our intentions matter, they play only a small part in determining the final outcome of our circumstances and our relationships. In spite of our perceptions or desires,…

The Warrior And The Healer (We Need Both)

Some of us were born for fighting and others for healing, but all of us are necessary. Within any given tribe, there are warriors and there are healers and neither is intrinsically more or less valuable than the other.* Each has a necessary role to play for the good of the tribe. Within every cultural…

Hope Is A Tool That Can Be Borrowed

Our capacity for love and joy is the same as our capacity for heartache and pain. It is impossible to open our hearts to the possibility of loving and being loved by others without also opening our hearts to the possibility of being hurt as well. We cannot experience the fullness of the former without…