Joy And Difficulty For A Sustainable Practice

“I think the most important thing is to have fun. Everyone wants to progress, to get better, but, if you have fun, you will never quit… you will always do it. Eventually, everyone gets better. If you have fun, you will keep showing up.“— Caio Terra, 12x Jiu-Jitsu World Champion In whatever we do, we…

Becoming What Others Need (Kiaijutsu)

For positive outcomes of mutual benefit, we must begin by being who and what others need us to be. Years ago, when I began digging into Japanese martial art history and philosophy, I sent an email to an author of several books on the subject, Ellis Amdur. Not only did he respond kindly and honestly…

Enough May Be All That We Get (And That Is Okay)

“I have only ever asked God for enough and he has always provided.”—Joe Sheya (my first martial art instructor) I am have never been shy about discussing the large degree to which my late hapkido teacher, Joe Sheya, impacted my life. He passed away in 2014, but some of the lessons he passed onto me…

To Fight Or To Make Peace

A friend of mine used to be a bouncer at a pub. One day, the pub owner called him into his office and said, “I’m sorry, but I’m going to have to let you go.” My friend said, “I don’t understand. I win every fight that I get into.” The pub owner replied, “That’s the…

Injury Halts Progress

Self defense starts with taking care of ourselves and our partners on the mats so that everyone gets stronger through training, not weaker through injury. It is good to train hard, to push ourselves, and test ourselves in practice, but it must always be remembered that it is just practice. The goal of practice is…