Balanced Not Equal

Relationships are very rarely equal, but they can still be balanced. It is very difficult to maintain pure and true equality in any kind of relationship. In fact, it may be impossible. There are simply too many variables to consider, track, and measure. Someone is always going to give or take more of something than…

On Fear And Bravery (Meaningful Action)

“Did you know that people get nervous before they do something brave?”—My Daughter Fear does not really go away. It is part of our nature. It exists to warn us of risk. It exists to tell us that we are in danger. We experience fear when there is a threat to our physical, psychological, or…

Facing The Fears Facing Us

If we do not find them first, our fears and insecurities will find us. We cannot ignore them, avoid them, or deny them forever. The harder we try to hide them or hide from them, the stronger they become. They are empowered by the darkness. To reject them is to reject a part of ourselves….

Turn Toward Trouble (A Jiu-Jitsu Lesson)

Our only hope for overcoming our troubles is to turn toward them. One of the most valuable lessons we learn, as we practice jiu-jitsu, is that our troubles do not go away when we turn our backs on them. In fact, the more we train, the more we discover that, by turning away from our…

With Or Without Us (On Shared Ideas)

Discouragement may be motivation enough to do great work, but it still hurts. Sharing is an inherently vulnerable act. It opens us up to criticism, disappointment, and discouragement. When we are passionate about an idea, a project, or a goal and we share our excitement with someone else, what are are telling that person is…