To Fight Or To Make Peace

A friend of mine used to be a bouncer at a pub. One day, the pub owner called him into his office and said, “I’m sorry, but I’m going to have to let you go.” My friend said, “I don’t understand. I win every fight that I get into.” The pub owner replied, “That’s the…

Compromising Creates Conflict

Compromising our values so as to avoid conflict, in spite of our hopes, beliefs, or desires, creates dissonance not resolution. Avoiding conflict at the cost of what we hold true is neither a win for us nor for those to or for whom we compromise. Compromising on the truth, on our truth, leaves that truth…

Solutions Take Less Time Than Complaints

It takes longer to complain about something that it does to take action toward a solution. The thing about complaining is that it does not really begin or end at the complaint. It is a much longer process than that. Often, whatever feelings led up to the actual complaint have been festering for a while…

On Conflict and Calm

Before jumping into another person’s battle, first ask yourself whether or not their cause is righteous and just, and whether or not they actually need your help. In a day and age where so much conflict is public and publicized, it is easier than ever to find ourselves leaping to the defense of a friend,…

Remain Curious (Not Resistive)

“Flow with the go.” —Rickson Gracie Much of the difficulty we face on a given day is rooted in resistance. We resist that which is new, different, or other. We resist demands made on our time, our character, our conceptions, and perceptions. We resist change in ourselves and the world around us. The problem is,…