Aligning With Our Purpose

If our reason for doing something is strong enough, it makes the how seem a lot less difficult. When the why in our hearts and minds is in opposition with the why of our actions, we experience internal dissonance. This dissonance causes feelings of confusion or conflict about the path we are on, whether chosen…

To Fight Or To Make Peace

A friend of mine used to be a bouncer at a pub. One day, the pub owner called him into his office and said, “I’m sorry, but I’m going to have to let you go.” My friend said, “I don’t understand. I win every fight that I get into.” The pub owner replied, “That’s the…

Compromising Creates Conflict

Compromising our values so as to avoid conflict, in spite of our hopes, beliefs, or desires, creates dissonance not resolution. Avoiding conflict at the cost of what we hold true is neither a win for us nor for those to or for whom we compromise. Compromising on the truth, on our truth, leaves that truth…

Solutions Take Less Time Than Complaints

It takes longer to complain about something that it does to take action toward a solution. The thing about complaining is that it does not really begin or end at the complaint. It is a much longer process than that. Often, whatever feelings led up to the actual complaint have been festering for a while…

On Conflict and Calm

Before jumping into another person’s battle, first ask yourself whether or not their cause is righteous and just, and whether or not they actually need your help. In a day and age where so much conflict is public and publicized, it is easier than ever to find ourselves leaping to the defense of a friend,…