Every day, we have the choice to treat others in a way that builds them up and makes them feel important, included, and involved, or to behave toward others in a way that puts them down and makes them feel small, insignificant, and irrelevant. It does not take much effort to see which of these…
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To Fight For Peace
We all need to fight for what we believe in, but what some of us believe in is not fighting. People are complex creatures full of inconsistencies and contradictions. Quite often, our actions do not align with what we claim to believe or value. Sometimes, our behaviors even directly contradict the very principles we espouse….
Aligning With Our Purpose
If our reason for doing something is strong enough, it makes the how seem a lot less difficult. When the why in our hearts and minds is in opposition with the why of our actions, we experience internal dissonance. This dissonance causes feelings of confusion or conflict about the path we are on, whether chosen…
To Fight Or To Make Peace
A friend of mine used to be a bouncer at a pub. One day, the pub owner called him into his office and said, “I’m sorry, but I’m going to have to let you go.” My friend said, “I don’t understand. I win every fight that I get into.” The pub owner replied, “That’s the…
Compromising Creates Conflict
Compromising our values so as to avoid conflict, in spite of our hopes, beliefs, or desires, creates dissonance not resolution. Avoiding conflict at the cost of what we hold true is neither a win for us nor for those to or for whom we compromise. Compromising on the truth, on our truth, leaves that truth…