Moving Through Our Egos in Jiu-Jitsu

Life is expressed through motion and our jiu-jitsu should reflect that. In Brazilian jiu-jitsu, the best time to attack or sweep is when our opponent is moving to escape or pass and the best time to escape or pass is when our opponent is trying to attack or sweep. Movement creates opportunities. The goal of…

Remove The Bad (But Nurture The Good)

We must work through the bad, but we must not forget to also tend to the good. It is often said that the good aspects of a relationship simply work themselves out. This is not always true. If we do not acknowledge them, tend to them, and encourage them, even the strongest parts of a…

True Confidence Begins with Humility

“That’s the funny thing about confidence: the incorrect amount of it and nothing will ever happen.” —Robert Downey Jr. True confidence requires humility. Humility is the ability to see ourselves objectively, as we are, and to accept and embrace what we see, the good and the bad. Humility keeps us from straying too far into…

True Empathy Requires Intelligence And Integrity

You are not what I feel. Young children see, hear, feel, and absorb much more than we know or tend to give them credit for, especially on an emotional level. Before a certain age, however, they do not have the ability to process this information intellectually. It is as if there is a direct transfer…