Damage Adds Texture

It is natural to fear being hurt and even to go to great lengths to avoid it, but pain is inevitable, unavoidable, and necessary for our growth and for the development our character. Pain, whether physical, psychological, or emotional, is part of what makes us human. Without it, we would have no motivation, we would…

Hope Is A Tool That Can Be Borrowed

Our capacity for love and joy is the same as our capacity for heartache and pain. It is impossible to open our hearts to the possibility of loving and being loved by others without also opening our hearts to the possibility of being hurt as well. We cannot experience the fullness of the former without…

Moving Through Our Egos in Jiu-Jitsu

Life is expressed through motion and our jiu-jitsu should reflect that. In Brazilian jiu-jitsu, the best time to attack or sweep is when our opponent is moving to escape or pass and the best time to escape or pass is when our opponent is trying to attack or sweep. Movement creates opportunities. The goal of…

Courage Requires Risk

Courage means showing up, even if it breaks your heart. They are often the things we avoid most fervidly that we need more than anything to do. These are the experiences that cause us the most fear, the experiences that we know will cause us pain and heartache. They are also the things that, if…