Self-pity is counter-productive. Not only does it not get us what we want, but it actually helps to ensure that we never get it. It keeps us alone and unhappy, feeling sorry for ourselves for being alone and unhappy. Regardless of what we have been through or what we are currently going through, feeling sorry…
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The Two Sides Of Vulnerability
In order for us to experience the best that life has to offer, we will also be vulnerable to the worst. Vulnerability is a two-edged sword. On one side, vulnerability makes it possible for us to feel and experience everything, to let it in, and to allow it to affect us, shape us, and change…
The Paradox Of Joy
Suffering is an unavoidable fact of life. We may try to ignore it, deny it, or run from it, but it will always find us in one way or another. Joy, on the other hand, is guaranteed to no one. It must be sought out. The challenge we face is that with seeking comes the…
Damage Adds Texture
It is natural to fear being hurt and even to go to great lengths to avoid it, but pain is inevitable, unavoidable, and necessary for our growth and for the development our character. Pain, whether physical, psychological, or emotional, is part of what makes us human. Without it, we would have no motivation, we would…
Hope Is A Tool That Can Be Borrowed
Our capacity for love and joy is the same as our capacity for heartache and pain. It is impossible to open our hearts to the possibility of loving and being loved by others without also opening our hearts to the possibility of being hurt as well. We cannot experience the fullness of the former without…