Growth Requires Caring

Apathy guarantees atrophy. There is no such thing as standing still. There is no true idle mode. We are either actively learning, growing, and improving or we are physically, intellectually, and spiritually regressing, i.e. dying. The surest way to ensure our early demise in some aspect of our life, aside from intentional self sabotage, is…

Randori: Failure as a Path to Rapid Learning & Growth

Failure is an essential component to rapid learning and growth. It is often said that martial arts which incorporate live, resistance-based, freestyle sparring (randori) create more effective martial artists more quickly than those that do not. Why is that? Simply put, people who regularly spar with each other fail more often than people who do…

True Confidence Begins with Humility

“That’s the funny thing about confidence: the incorrect amount of it and nothing will ever happen.” —Robert Downey Jr. True confidence requires humility. Humility is the ability to see ourselves objectively, as we are, and to accept and embrace what we see, the good and the bad. Humility keeps us from straying too far into…

On Traction and Confidence (Find Your Flippers)

Sometimes we just need a little bit of traction to realize that we can accomplish anything. Making progress on something that is difficult is one of the greatest feelings in the world. There is great satisfaction to be found in overcoming a personal struggle. Just how we go about doing this is a subject of…

Learning From Failure

Allow the bad positions you find yourself in to be your teachers. Not much is really learned from doing well aside from learning that we should not take any risks that might jeopardize our success. The problem with this is that success does not teach us how to deal with failure. Success gives us tunnel…