My Tribal Standards

I have two standards for my associations, regardless of whether they are personal or professional. The first requirement is that I like and respect you. The second that you like and respect me. If one of these standards is not met, I find it very difficult to move forward. In my experience, there is no…

Focusing On Our Goals (For Our Tribe)

Our actions should support our goals, but our goals should support our community. It is important to have clarity with regards to our personal goals and to shape our lives in such a way that we are working toward them, not against them. As we become more focused on what we want to achieve, we…

A Community Of Accountability

Certain people will always feel responsible regardless of their position or status, whether or not they are asked or required to be. For some people, responsibility feels like a burden that must be avoided, eliminated, or overcome at all costs. For them, accountability is synonymous with subjugation. It is a trap, a dead end path,…

The Balance Of Give And Take

Some people are natural givers and others are natural takers, but both extremes can be equally destructive if not properly balanced with their opposite. When we describe someone as a taker, a person who is uncompromisingly selfish and who demands more of a relationship than he or she is willing to give back to it,…

Compassion For The Selfish

Before we judge a person for their selfish beliefs and behavior, we should consider the bigger picture of their support system or lack thereof. Some people are only out for themselves, looking at every situation and interaction from the perspective of personal benefit or personal loss, and never from what is best or even good…