On Non-Resistance (A Jiu-Jitsu Lesson)

Long-lasting solutions begin with empathy, not animosity. If we want to make a change in our lives, we will inevitably come up against resistance. Instead of perceiving this resistance as a negative thing, we should embrace it for the lessons it offers. Resistance forces us to know ourselves, our desires, our capabilities, and to adjust…

Through Resistance or Toward Regret (The Choice is Yours)

Taking the path of least resistance now leads to the path of greatest regret later. Avoiding difficulty does not, in fact, make our lives less difficult. It simply postpones the inevitable. This is especially true when we avoid difficult situations, conversations, or actions that we know, deep down, are what we want to, or must,…

Commit Forward (Then Pivot)

If we do not first commit to a relationship, we cannot pivot within that relationship and be taken seriously. In aikido, there are two fundamental concepts of movement. In the most general terms, the first is entering (irimi) and the second is pivoting or flanking (tenkan). Irimi is the act of moving in, on and…

A Creative Death is the Antidote for a Practical Life

New ideas are inherently impractical. We cannot change the world by doing what has already been done. Practicality is conforming to the status quo. It is not rocking the boat. It is following the well-worn path and not risking a detour that may lead to a dead end. It is low risk with low yield,…