On Non-Resistance (A Jiu-Jitsu Lesson)

Long-lasting solutions begin with empathy, not animosity. If we want to make a change in our lives, we will inevitably come up against resistance. Instead of perceiving this resistance as a negative thing, we should embrace it for the lessons it offers. Resistance forces us to know ourselves, our desires, our capabilities, and to adjust…

Martial Arts And The Freedom To Choose

As long as we have choice, we have hope. One of the most powerful lessons martial arts teach us is that very difficult, seemingly insurmountable problems can be solved by applying the right combination of posture, balance, angles, and leverage. What at first feels like a hopeless challenge becomes less and less so the more…

Creating Change Requires Risk

Some ideas are worth pursuing and some are not, but there is no way to know the difference without trying. By definition, an idea cannot be great without its potential to create some kind of change. Change is a risky proposition because change requires movement and, in order for movement to occur, friction, resistance, and…

Courage Points Toward Resistance (Not Away From It)

The barriers between us and our freedom and fulfillment often look and feel a lot like the exact things inside us that we do not want to face. We each have within us a compass of sorts, but it works backwards. Instead of pointing us toward our true north, it actually points us away from…

Efficiency is Intentional Nonresistance

Force against resistance begets more resistance. While the goal of grappling, whether manifested as a throw, a pin, or a submission, is ultimately to impose our will on another person, this is much more easily accomplished if we can create circumstances within which our opponent actually gives us we want, instead of having to take…