Many of our relationships, whether we like it or not, place restrictions on us that prevent us from being ourselves. Whether for occupational, familial, or political reasons, we cannot fully open up to everyone, in every way, in every circumstance. If we do, not only will we jeopardize the relationships themselves, but also our reputations … Continue reading To Be Or Not To Be Ourselves
Do the difficult thing first. Get it out of the way. Check it off the list. Face that which you are most avoiding. Do it while it is convenient knowing that it is never truly convenient. Do it anyway. Do it now. It will not become easier with time. Time only adds to the fear, … Continue reading The Difficult Thing
We should not be jealous of others for behaviors our consciences will not abide. A conscience is a funny thing. It is both very personal and very specific. Attitudes and behaviors that do not appear to bother one person’s conscience may make another’s flail and scream in protest. Some people, it seems, have much stronger … Continue reading Our Inner Voice Is Ours Alone
One of the most powerful and long-lasting lessons of my childhood came from being required to do chores around the house before being allowed to go outside to play with my friends. As parents, we want the best for our children. We want them to be kind, decent, and successful. And, we want to provide … Continue reading The Lessons Of Youth
In Brazilian jiu-jitsu, we learn over time that overextending ourselves has very real, even painful, consequences. One of the greatest benefits of jiu-jitsu training is the near-immediate feedback we receive from rolling (grappling for submissions). When we make mistakes, if we are rolling with someone of equal or greater skill, there are consequences in the … Continue reading The Consequences Of Overextension (A Jiu-Jitsu Lesson)
