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  • Robert Van Valkenburgh

  • Different But Necessary

    “In order to scale, you have to do things that don’t scale.”

    —Reid Hoffman

    Ribbon Cutting Ceremony at Kogen Dojo’s 2nd Anniversary. Photo by Haley Arias

    The goal should not be to sell what is popular, unless you have short term goals. The goal should be to own a category, to have a monopoly because your brand, experience, and product are so unique that there is no competition.

    This cannot be done if your focus is on what is popular because, if you try to catch up with what’s popular, you are most likely already too late. The real opportunity is found in something that has not happened yet, something that has not been thought of yet, or by combining things that have never been combined before.

    The big win is on the other side of finding out what people want before they even know they want it and then telling them about it, letting them experience it, and showing them what they have been missing. This means doing something different or at least doing something that has been done before, but in an entirely different way.

    This all requires vision, a lot of persistent, and, even more importantly, very good listening skills.

    “As in life, so too it is in budo. As in budo, so too it is in life.

    -Robert Van Valkenburgh is co-founder of Taikyoku Mind & Body and Kogen Dojo where he teaches Taikyoku Budo and Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu

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    July 25, 2019
    business, creativity, differentiate, entrepreneur, entrepreneurship, innovate, innovation, Inspiration, life, monopoly, scale

  • Ignorance and Bliss in Isolation (Courage Needs Company)

    “Sin is a failure to bother to love.”

    — James F. Keenan, S.J.

    On the same day that a family member of mine came out, telling the world that he is gay, I happened to re-listen to Tim Ferriss’s interview with Samin Nosrat, author of the book Salt, Fat, Acid, Heat. Nosrat is an intelligent, jovial, passionate individual, who grew up in an Iranian-American household. Her cultural heritage, along with the color of her skin, Nosrat explains to Ferriss, has often left her feeling not only different than those around her, but at times also fearful and threatened simply because of these differences.

    My formative years were spent in an upper middle class suburb between Washington DC and Baltimore where being different meant that you were not welcome. If you were black, hispanic, Asian, Jewish, Muslim, hell if you were smart or quiet or overweight, you were considered an outsider and outsiders were not treated well. My friends and I were the outsiders, a fact which came with ridicule, harassment, hatred, bullying, and lots of fights, both verbal and physical.

    As I have gotten older, I have consciously or unconsciously moved away from environments like I experienced growing up. As an adult, unlike in compulsory public school, I have found that I do not have to associate with people who are racist, anti-Semitic, xenophobic, homophobic, mean, or cruel. I maintain a diverse group of friends and associates who are embracing and welcoming of others, regardless of race, religion, sexual orientation, or political beliefs. I am now coming to realize, that I have the luxury of living a life of self-imposed, insulated, isolation.

    The world has not changed. My environment has. In the world at large, those who are ‘different’ still have to have courage simply to be themselves, to show up as themselves, in their own skin, with their own beliefs, and with the person or people they love. Realizing this fact made me feel a bit ashamed, as if removing myself from a world of bigotry, intolerance, and hatred, while based in self preservation, was also an act of cowardice. Courage needs company and love is not a passive act.

    “As in life, so too it is in budo. As in budo, so too it is in life.”

    -Robert Van Valkenburgh is co-founder of Taikyoku Mind & Body and Kogen Dojo where he teaches Taikyoku Budo and Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu

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    July 23, 2019
    bigotry, coming out, courage, family, fear, homophobia, isolation, james keenan, life, love, racism, salt fat acid heat, samin nosrat, tim ferriss, xenophobia

  • A Culinary Framework for Delicious Simplicity

    “One of the secrets to success is not unbound freedom, but selecting the proper constraints.”

    — Tim Ferriss

    Homegrown Thai Basil and Bird Chilis

    Being a husband, father, employee, and business owner, I have to make a lot of decisions every day. All decisions requires some degree of time, energy, and attention, each of which is in limited supply. Added decisions when it comes to things like what to cook and eat, especially when the options are seemingly infinite, take focus and energy away from other aspects of my life that are more important and making no decision at all means eating poorly, which only makes everything else, my health, my sleep, and my attitude, worse.

    By applying a simple framework to cooking, inspired by Samin Nosrat, we can have variety without having to make a bunch of unnecessary decisions. If we think about the flavor of every dish as being the result of four components — salt, fat, acid, and heat — and we adjust those components, sourcing them from a specific culinary region, adding some regional herbs and alliums for an extra kick if we like, we give ourselves the luxury of infinite flavor options, without having to make an infinite number of decisions along the way.

    Applying this framework to a simple piece of flank steak, we can make a Southeast Asian beef salad by pan searing (heat) the beef in avocado oil (fat), slicing it thin, and tossing it in a dressing of fish sauce (salt), lime juice (acid), and bird chilis (more heat). If we were to use sea salt, olive oil, balsamic vinegar, and red chili flakes, the same exact piece of beef becomes Italian. Soy sauce, sesame oil, rice vinegar, ginger, garlic, and scallions gives a Japanese flavor to the beef.

    Looked at in this way, we do not need to make a lot of choices. We only need to choose a culinary region, allowing the region to tell us what salt, fat, acid, and heat works best for the protein and/or vegetables that are local and fresh.

    By working inside these constraints, we are not only guaranteed to have fewer culinary decisions to make, but we are also promised a delicious outcome that is only restricted by availability and imagination.

    “As in life, so too it is in budo. As in budo, so too it is in life.”

    -Robert Van Valkenburgh is co-founder of Taikyoku Mind & Body and Kogen Dojo where he teaches Taikyoku Budo and Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu

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    July 22, 2019
    cooking, decision fatigue, decisions, essentialism, food, foodie, framework, minimalism, salt fat acid heat, samin nosrat, simplicity, systems, tim ferriss

  • Guest Post: Senior Health — Lifestyle Changes That Can Boost Quality of Life

    The following is a guest post, submitted by Jason Lewis

    Seniors often find that taking control of their health is a very involved process that takes some careful planning. When it comes to ensuring your physical and mental well-being is in a good place, it’s crucial to take steps and prepare for the next few years of your life. Boosting the quality of your days will help lengthen your lifespan and allow you to enjoy your post-retirement years so that you can focus on the things you’ve always wanted to do. It’s important to remember that you don’t have to spend a ton of money in order to live your best life; many seniors are on a tight budget, which can lead to stress when there are any changes to consider. 

    It’s a good idea to utilize all the tools and resources at your disposal. For instance, if you have a Medicare Advantage plan, ensure you’re making the most of your dental care. If you live near the beach or a sunny area, get outside whenever you can and soak up that vitamin D. 

    Here are a few things you should really think about when it comes to making healthy lifestyle changes that will boost your quality of living.

    Stay Active

    Many seniors don’t understand the importance of staying active, or perhaps they’re intimidated by a workout due to health or mobility issues. Try something low-impact, such as walking or swimming, and look for indoor activities you can do when the weather isn’t ideal for a stroll. You can use online tutorials to learn yoga, or you can attend a drop-in class (you’ll usually spend$12 to $16 for a yoga class). You can also build an inexpensive home gym that will allow you to work out from the comfort of your own home. Keep in mind that seniors who exercise daily spend less time injured or disabled than those who don’t.

    Take Good Care of Your Teeth

    Your oral health has a big impact on other parts of your body, from your mental health to your heart, so it’s imperative that you take good care of your teeth and gums. If you have a Medicare Advantage plan, utilize your coverage and benefits to get the most out of the policy; schedule regular checkups and make sure you understand what your plan offers. And if you don’t have one already, now’s the perfect time to find a dentist in your area. Because poor oral health has been linked to depression, you’ll help boost your mood and energy at the same time.

    Declutter Your Home

    You may not realize how much clutter your home has until you start taking a closer look. However, the good news is that once you clean up and get organized, you’ll start feeling a lot better. Studies have shown that clutter is bad for our mental health and can induce anxiety and stress even while you’re just trying to relax in your own home. Start in one room and work your way out to avoid becoming overwhelmed; separate items into piles to donate, throw away, sell, and keep. This will help you see what you really have. You may also want to give your home a deep cleaning after decluttering, which might include hiring a pro to handle this job.

    Try Something New

    Trying new things can help raise your self-confidence and keep you social, which will, in turn, help prevent stress, anxiety, loneliness, and depression. You could try learning a new language using a smartphone app or taking a cooking class to learn how to make something you’ll enjoy. You can either use this time to focus on yourself and your own needs or meet new people and make strong connections, both of which will help strengthen your mental health. 

    Taking control of your health can be a lengthy process, but it doesn’t have to be a stressful one. By taking advantage of the tools and resources you already have, you can make sure every day is full of the people, places, and things you enjoy most, thereby boosting your quality of life.

    — Written by Jason Lewis who is a Certified Personal Trainer with a BA in Human Performance/Exercise Health Science

     

     

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    July 22, 2019
    elderly living, exercise, fitness, health, healthy lifestyle, longevity, senior living

  • Freedom to Explore

    Rules and boundaries are important, especially for young children, but, when it comes to artistic expression, they may be a hindrance to creativity and the reason a child ‘quits’ making art.

    ‘Hopper Trail’ by Ana

    Recently, our martial art school celebrated its second anniversary and we had a party to show our appreciation for all of our wonderful members and their families. For the kids, we hired a face painter. The woman we hired did an amazing job, she was great with the kids, and her artwork was truly fantastic. All of the kids chose different designs and every single one of the pieces she painted was unique, beautiful, and highly detailed, especially given the time constraints she faced with a line of children eagerly awaiting their turns.

    After the party, when it was time to pay the artist, she and I began chatting about children and artwork. I asked her if she taught art classes for children, explained that my daughter really enjoys painting, and that I want to encourage her to continue doing it. I told her that I was hoping that by having my daughter take art classes, by learning some of the skills and rules of art, that she would stay motivated. Her reply kind of shocked me at first, but made a lot of sense as it began to sink in.

    The artist told me not to push my daughter into art classes yet, at least not at her age. She said that young kids need to feel free to explore art on their own terms and that it must remain fun. Art classes are great, she explained, but teaching a young child the rules of art too soon makes it feel like work. It is better to allow a child to freely explore art in whatever way he or she is drawn to it, to encourage this exploration, and to give them the tools to do it. If the child truly enjoys making art, he or she will eventually want to learn how to do it better and will want to take classes.

    “As in life, so too it is in budo. As in budo, so too it is in life.

    -Robert Van Valkenburgh is co-founder of Taikyoku Mind & Body and Kogen Dojo where he teaches Taikyoku Budo and Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu

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    July 21, 2019
    art, art classes, artist, children, creation, creative, creative freedom, creativity, freedom, Inspiration, kids

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