On Self Care

Once it becomes clear that someone we thought would take care of us will not, it should also become clear that we must start taking care of ourselves.  It is important, however, that we do this without the bitterness, resentment, or fear that we will naturally be inclined to have when we are disappointed, frustrated,…

Honoring Values

If we want to be useful to others, we will need to understand how integrity manifests in their lives.  A good place to start is to look at where they are unwilling to compromise. This tells us a lot about a person and what they value most. It may be with time, money, or family….

The Need To Be Loved

We all want to know that we are worthy of love, kindness, and respect. We want to know that our life, our very existence, has value. We want to know that this value is inherent to our very being, that we are deserving of affection, appreciation, and compassion simply because we are, not because of…

My Tribal Standards

I have two standards for my associations, regardless of whether they are personal or professional. The first requirement is that I like and respect you. The second that you like and respect me. If one of these standards is not met, I find it very difficult to move forward. In my experience, there is no…