Authenticity Is A Choice Not An Excuse

Authenticity is not an excuse to behave badly. None of us gets to walk around doing or saying whatever we want to without consequences. Ideally, this is a lesson we learn as children, but most of us need to be reminded from time to time as we get older. In fact, one of the many…

The Brightest Cloud

“When the sun hides, it hides behind the brightest cloud.”—My Daughter Some days, it is difficult to see beyond the ugliness and the darkness in this world. Conflict, fear, anger, and pain are right in our faces with no obvious solution or hope of relief on the horizon. On days like these, it can be…

The Sword And Shield Of Truth (Happy Birthday To My Wife)

“I wasn’t born nice. I have to try really hard to be that way.”—My Wife Some people tell us exactly who they are, leaving us with the choice to believe them, accept them, love them, or leave. These people do not try to be someone else, they do not hide their truth, and they do…

Return To Your Center (Be Kind)

Kindness is never a wasted effort. When we are kind to others, we begin to change and they begin to change. This change may not be immediately observable, by us or those to whom our kindness is directed, but a small change occurs with every exchange of kindness nonetheless. If applied consistently, these infinitesimal, often…

Love Requires Choice

Quite often, our love is measured in sacrifice. When we think about what love means, it is easy to conjure ideas about all of the things we give and receive in its name. We imagine the time, energy, and emotion that we put into our relationships and, in the same thought, we imagine how that…