The Sword And Shield Of Truth (Happy Birthday To My Wife)

“I wasn’t born nice. I have to try really hard to be that way.”—My Wife Some people tell us exactly who they are, leaving us with the choice to believe them, accept them, love them, or leave. These people do not try to be someone else, they do not hide their truth, and they do…

Return To Your Center (Be Kind)

Kindness is never a wasted effort. When we are kind to others, we begin to change and they begin to change. This change may not be immediately observable, by us or those to whom our kindness is directed, but a small change occurs with every exchange of kindness nonetheless. If applied consistently, these infinitesimal, often…

Love Requires Choice

Quite often, our love is measured in sacrifice. When we think about what love means, it is easy to conjure ideas about all of the things we give and receive in its name. We imagine the time, energy, and emotion that we put into our relationships and, in the same thought, we imagine how that…

A Single Act Of Kindness

We never know when our small act of kindness will change someone else’s entire life for the better. When I first started Brazilian jiu-jitsu (BJJ) in early 2013, I had already done many years of martial art training, specifically traditional Korean hapkido. I loved hapkido and still do for what it is. Not only was…

Embrace Optimism

“The most important thing is to teach your kids to be optimists—to train them to be optimists—because without that, you’re lost. With the ability to see the silver lining, to see the benefits of even a very dire situation, you can at least look for and see solutions. And if you conversely have a pessimistic…