The Limitations of Kindness

Holistic Budo: As it is in budo, so too it is in life. As it is in life, so too it is in budo. Robert Van Valkenburgh is co-founder of Taikyoku Mind & Body and Kogen Dojo where he teaches Taikyoku Budo and Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu Artwork by Ana, except where otherwise noted If you found…

Silence and Integrity

We do not have to be rude to be authentic. If we have any kind of point of view, lots of people will say and do things that are in conflict with our opinions and beliefs. That is simply part of life. If we feel the need to react to every incidence of disagreement with…

Boundaries of Courage

If you don’t maintain your boundaries and someone else steps over them, it may not be their fault. It is our responsibility to know ourselves and where our boundaries are. This is one facet of having integrity. Integrity is not only about what we do, but about what we allow and tolerate into our lives….

One Single Act of Kindess

What if your act of kindness is the only one another person experiences today? For several years, I worked as a barista at a coffee shop by the water in downtown Annapolis, MD. We had a lot of regulars every morning, some more awake and happy to be there than others. I did my best…

Be Who You Are With Kindness

Be yourself, but first, be kind. It is important to be authentic and honest, but it is more important to temper that with humility and compassion. Without humility and compassion, it becomes easy to deceive ourselves into thinking that authenticity and honesty mean saying whatever we feel like to whomever we feel like saying it….