Once it becomes clear that someone we thought would take care of us will not, it should also become clear that we must start taking care of ourselves.
It is important, however, that we do this without the bitterness, resentment, or fear that we will naturally be inclined to have when we are disappointed, frustrated, or disillusioned.
These feelings are counterproductive.
They will only cloud our judgement and hinder our progress.
Taking care of ourselves does not have to be a selfish act.
In fact, it should not be a selfish act.
Taking care of ourselves does not mean taking care of only ourselves.
Very little can be accomplished in life by taking care of only ourselves.
We need other people and they need us.
We must, if we are to be successful, take care of one another.
Taking care of ourselves, therefore, has less to do with being selfish and self-centered than it does to do with seeking out people who will reciprocate our care, respect, and support for them.
Taking care of ourselves means seeking out, creating, and growing healthy relationships of mutual caring, respect, and support.