Need Should Inform Desire (On Contentment)

Contentment begins with aligning our desires with our needs. Often, what we want and what we need are quite different from one another. Part of maturing as a human being is developing the ability to look beyond the former and embrace the latter, ideally to the point where they eventually converge such that what we…

Voluntary Essentialism

“If you don’t prioritize your life, someone else will.” —Greg McKeown from ‘Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less’ In times of confusion and difficulty, often the only things we have to fall back on are our principles, our beliefs, and those things we hold to be most essential in our lives. While it is in…

Be Yourself For Others

Often, the struggle we face in our lives is between what other people want from us and what we actually want for ourselves. When we are young, we are told that we can be anything we want to be when we grow up, but, as we get older, we are also told that we must…

Want Adapts to Need

Be the person you need to be and the person you want to be will adapt. It would be nice if we could all just ‘be ourselves’ without consequences, if everybody liked, loved, and respected us no matter how we behaved. Unfortunately, the people who count on us, those we serve, need us to show…