The Desire To Do Good

Good intentions alone may not be enough, but they are a better starting point than the alternative. When we talk about someone’s good intentions, it is usually a way of easing the pain of disappointment, saying that, in spite of some negative outcome, at least the person in question means well. Wanting to do good…

Detachment From Desire (On Problem Solving)

Attachment to a desired outcome blinds us to the actual problem in front of us and, therefore, also to its solution. In order to approach a problem objectively, intelligently, and decisively, we must first step back from it so that we can see it clearly, without the distractions of emotion or opinion. We must look…

Need Should Inform Desire (On Contentment)

Contentment begins with aligning our desires with our needs. Often, what we want and what we need are quite different from one another. Part of maturing as a human being is developing the ability to look beyond the former and embrace the latter, ideally to the point where they eventually converge such that what we…

Voluntary Essentialism

“If you don’t prioritize your life, someone else will.” —Greg McKeown from ‘Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less’ In times of confusion and difficulty, often the only things we have to fall back on are our principles, our beliefs, and those things we hold to be most essential in our lives. While it is in…

Be Yourself For Others

Often, the struggle we face in our lives is between what other people want from us and what we actually want for ourselves. When we are young, we are told that we can be anything we want to be when we grow up, but, as we get older, we are also told that we must…