The more we look for beauty in the world, the more beauty we are likely to see. The same holds true for ugliness. Both exist whether we look for them or not. So we must choose where to focus. Looking for one does not make the other go away. However, by adding our focus to…
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Guided By Compassion
As soon as we lose our compassion for one another, we lose our humanity. Compassion is what separates us from the animals. Of course, we do not need compassion to have intellects or free will, but these are wasted without it. Without compassion, we are not much more than overly intelligent beasts determined to destroy…
Choice And Fate
If something happens to us that we could not predict, control, or change, even if it has negative longterm consequences, it does not serve us to feel bad about it. Neither regret, guilt, nor shame will alter what happened. Wishing it would have or could have gone differently does not bring us back in time. …
Options For Intolerability
There are several ways to deal with an intolerable situation. One way is to learn to tolerate it. Things are rarely as intolerable as we think, after all. We are more adaptable than we give ourselves credit for. Given enough time, we get used to even the worst of circumstances and they begin to feel…
A Way Out Of Risk
If we never fully commit to our efforts, we can provide ourselves an out through which to excuse ourselves for our failures. We tell ourselves that it does not matter that we failed because we were not really trying anyway. Unfortunately, this path of non-commitment is also the path of mediocrity. We cannot achieve anything…