Choosing Compassion

Compassion is not required of us, but it certainly does help. We do not have to be kind, understanding, generous, gracious, or forgiving. There are plenty of other options available to us in every moment. In fact, many people get quite far in this life by being the opposite of these things. We must make…

Starting At Home (Effecting Change)

We cannot be all things to all people and still be effective. We all want this world to be a better place for ourselves, our families, and our loved ones. We want the future to be better than the past. We want to leave this life knowing that it is better for us having been…

Choosing Change (Facing Trauma)

Our scars remind us how we got here, but they should not dictate where we go next. Whether internally, externally, or some combination of both, trauma alters us. It changes our shape. It changes the way we move, the way we perceive ourselves and the world, and it changes the way we relate to others….

Be The Relational Variable

Every moment is an opportunity to change our fate. Simply because we have experienced something painful or traumatizing in a specific circumstance or relationship does not mean that every circumstance or relationship that resembles that experience will result in the same pain or trauma. But, we also cannot hope for things to be different on…

Change Of Choice

If energy can only be changed, not created or destroyed, we must decide what kind of change we are going to make with the energy we have. We do not get to choose all of the input we receive in our lives. We do not get to decide the circumstances we are born into and…