Martial Arts And The Freedom To Choose

As long as we have choice, we have hope. One of the most powerful lessons martial arts teach us is that very difficult, seemingly insurmountable problems can be solved by applying the right combination of posture, balance, angles, and leverage. What at first feels like a hopeless challenge becomes less and less so the more…

Lead In Your Own Way

If you look around and do not see a leader, it is you. My grandfather used to tell me a story about a study that he had read about. It represented what he liked to refer to as an object lesson. This particular story, and its subsequent lesson, was about leadership. Researchers put ten strangers…

Love Requires Choice

Quite often, our love is measured in sacrifice. When we think about what love means, it is easy to conjure ideas about all of the things we give and receive in its name. We imagine the time, energy, and emotion that we put into our relationships and, in the same thought, we imagine how that…

Preference Beyond Choice

That which others are passionate about may feel totally hollow and empty to us, but that does not mean we cannot enthusiastically support their passion. We are not all the same. We do not all enjoy and value the same things, the same activities, the same music, the same movies, the same art, the same…

Space to be Understood

Sometimes we must put off the need to be heard in order to be understood. Being misunderstood can leave us feeing powerless. This can lead to frustration. Sometimes, in an attempt to overcome our frustration, we try harder to be heard, thinking that if only we can explain ourselves better, if only we can get…