Healing Through Change

Explanations do not heal hurt feelings. We all make mistakes. We will all hurt someone else, at some point in our lives, in some way. It may be unintentional. We may be entirely unaware that we even did so. Sometimes, even with the best possible intentions, our words or actions cause harm, hurt feelings, or…

Damage Adds Texture

It is natural to fear being hurt and even to go to great lengths to avoid it, but pain is inevitable, unavoidable, and necessary for our growth and for the development our character. Pain, whether physical, psychological, or emotional, is part of what makes us human. Without it, we would have no motivation, we would…

To Be Seen And Loved Requires Risk

Sometimes we find ourselves stuck in a feedback loop of loneliness and pain, the only solution for which is vulnerability and trust. Some of us spend our whole lives waiting to be seen and loved for who we are instead of for who others want or need us to be. We learn that our ability…

Hope Is A Tool That Can Be Borrowed

Our capacity for love and joy is the same as our capacity for heartache and pain. It is impossible to open our hearts to the possibility of loving and being loved by others without also opening our hearts to the possibility of being hurt as well. We cannot experience the fullness of the former without…