Giving in to others simply to avoid conflict puts us in conflict with ourselves. We cannot please everyone else and ourselves simultaneously. In most cases, acquiescing to the wants or demands of others in an attempt to make them happy, in spite of our own happiness, has the opposite affect on us. It may prevent immediate…
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True To Self
It does not serve us to be apologetic for being ourselves. Our tastes, preferences, attitudes, and beliefs, as long as they are not harmful to others, should be accepted and embraced as those things that make us uniquely who we are. The same is true for the things, people, and experiences that do not resonate…
Intention And Attention
Some of us are not capable of pretending. We do not know how to show interest when we are uninterested. We do not know how to pay attention when we are distracted. We do not know how to appear enthralled when we are bored. We do not know how to seem pleased when we are…
Truth In Service
It is not a secret that helping others makes us feel better about ourselves and our lives. It frees us from our self-centered problems and feelings for a little while and gives us a sense of purpose and fulfillment. A problem arises, however, when we help others in a way that compromises our values, violates…
What Needs To Change
When one thing in our lives causes us the majority of our difficulty, discomfort, or distress, we must ask ourselves whether it is that thing or us that needs to change. This means we must determine how important this aspect of our life is to us. Is it essential or nonessential? Can we live without…