If something happens to us that we could not predict, control, or change, even if it has negative longterm consequences, it does not serve us to feel bad about it. Neither regret, guilt, nor shame will alter what happened. Wishing it would have or could have gone differently does not bring us back in time. …
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That Which Must Be Done
There will always be things in our lives that we do not want to do, but that we must do lest we forever regret not having done them. These are usually experiences we have been avoiding out of fear, but that we know deep down are necessary for us. We avoid doing them because they…
The Persistence Of An Idea
Sometimes we get an idea in our head that just will not leave us alone. It nags at us constantly in all of our waking hours. Regardless of what fears arise or what logic is thrown at it, it persists. It feels as if the only way to quiet this relentless whisper is to act…
First Chances
No matter what we may think, no matter what we tell ourselves, and no matter what others may say, we could not have done things differently. We could not have made different choices. We could not have made better decisions. We could not have been someone other than who we were in that moment. We…