Listen To The Person More Than The Message

We may disagree, but, if we can do so intelligently and compassionately, there is room for you in my life. Not everyone who disagrees with us is against us. In fact, some people actually disagree with us because they care about us and want to see us learn, grow, and open ourselves up to a…

The Story of Possibility

Sometimes our greatest enemy, our grandest saboteur, is the story we tell ourselves about who we are and the value of our contribution to the lives of those around us. We cannot base our lives solely on the opinions of others, but we also cannot base our lives solely on our own opinions of ourselves….

Cutting Through Closed Guard

Accepting even an expert’s opinion as fact, without testing and retesting it in different contexts, can be detrimental to growth and progress. When I first started cross-training in Brazilian jiu-jitsu (BJJ), I accepted the opinion that closed guard is better than open guard for self defense. It seemed logical. There is more postural control in…

Opinions Along the Path

Our inner compass for decision making cannot be driven by the thoughts, fears, and opinions of others, lest we spend a lifetime compiling regret and resentment. Regret comes from not doing what we know in our hearts to be true. Resentment comes from the blame we feel for our regrets, directed toward those whom we…