The Cycle of Criticism

When we criticize others, we open ourselves up to criticism.  We set ourselves up against an impossible standard.  As soon as we, ourselves, make a mistake, which will inevitably happen, our own words and attitudes toward others become ammunition to be used against us.  No one is perfect.  We all have flaws and make mistakes. …

Deceived by Righteousness

The problem with righteous anger is that it is still anger.  Anger is a toxic state that destroys us from within before it destroys everything we care about.  It is not some finely tuned weapon that can be safely directed only toward whomever or whatever we are angry at without causing collateral damage.  It is…

On Self Kindness

We should be kinder to ourselves. We do not need to be pampered, coddled, or spoiled. But, we do need to leave ourselves room to breathe and to grow. Most likely, we are doing our best. Even when we are not, we know it. There is no use in being overly critical of ourselves for…

Choosing Compassion

Compassion is not required of us, but it certainly does help. We do not have to be kind, understanding, generous, gracious, or forgiving. There are plenty of other options available to us in every moment. In fact, many people get quite far in this life by being the opposite of these things. We must make…