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Posted on May 30, 2023

Forgiveness Heals

Healing begins with forgiveness. Whatever trauma, hardships, or wrongdoings you have suffered in the past are in the past. Keeping them with you as you move forward only serves to cause you more pain and suffering. Holding onto these experiences becomes an unbearable burden that drags you down into the pits of anger, sadness, and … Continue reading Forgiveness Heals

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Posted on March 21, 2023

Critical Separation

Criticism is easy, but it ultimately leads to misery. It helps you to believe you are separate from the person you are criticizing, and it excuses you from looking at yourself and the role you play in your own unhappiness. As long as you can point at someone else as being the problem, you do … Continue reading Critical Separation

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Posted on February 24, 2023

The Two Sides Of Compassion

Compassion is not necessarily a two-way street. Simply because we are willing and able to feel for others does not mean that they can or will feel for us. The kindness, graciousness, and forgiveness we feel and express are often their own reward. If we lack compassion, however, if we are cold, mean, and unforgiving, … Continue reading The Two Sides Of Compassion

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The Cycle of Criticism
Posted on June 28, 2022June 28, 2022

The Cycle of Criticism

When we criticize others, we open ourselves up to criticism.  We set ourselves up against an impossible standard.  As soon as we, ourselves, make a mistake, which will inevitably happen, our own words and attitudes toward others become ammunition to be used against us.  No one is perfect.  We all have flaws and make mistakes.  … Continue reading The Cycle of Criticism

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Deceived by Righteousness
Posted on June 18, 2022June 18, 2022

Deceived by Righteousness

The problem with righteous anger is that it is still anger.  Anger is a toxic state that destroys us from within before it destroys everything we care about.  It is not some finely tuned weapon that can be safely directed only toward whomever or whatever we are angry at without causing collateral damage.  It is … Continue reading Deceived by Righteousness

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