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  • Robert Van Valkenburgh

  • Resolving the Wrong Notes

    “It’s not the note you play that’s the wrong note – it’s the note you play afterwards that makes it right or wrong.” – Miles Davis

    When the doors of Kogen Dojo opened, after a lot of anticipation and hard work, we had a brief moment to step back and really appreciate what we had built. We had so much support and help through the process and, because of this, we finished what needed to be done on time, just barely on time. It was a mad dash that seemed to take forever. Finally, classes were running, people were training, and we got to see our vision come to life. I looked at my friend and partner and said, “A lot of things had to go very right and a lot of things had to go very wrong to get us where we are today.”

    People often see mistakes and failures as roadblocks along their path, stopping them from getting to where they want to be. This is only true if we let it be so. Mistakes and failures are lessons. They are gifts. They tell us what not to do and who not to be. They are not roadblocks, but signposts pointing us in new, better directions. They do not block our path. They are the path itself. The things that go wrong are just as important as the things that go right in getting us to where we want to or are destined to be.

    Even with the best of intentions, we all make mistakes and we fall short of our ideals and our goals. Our mistakes do not define us though. It is what we do next that defines who we are and who we will become. It is how we resolve our errors, our transgressions, and our mistakes that puts us on the side of the angels or the devil, as a friend likes to say. If we want to do great things, we will fail many times along the way. What we do with these failures is what defines our legacy. If we have a mission and a vision and if we stay the course, a lot of things will go very right and a lot of things will go very wrong, but we will get where we are going.

    – Robert Van Valkenburgh is co-founder of Kogen Dojo where he teaches Taikyoku Budo and Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu

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    February 1, 2019
    kogen dojo, miles davis, mistakes, music, resolutions, the path, the way

  • Start with a Mission

    Regardless of how well they adhered to it or lived up to its promise, the corporate coffee company I worked for for many years had a clearly defined mission and it was a mission that I found inspiring. They wanted to put people before coffee and both of those before profit. The idea was that if they treated the people who worked with or for them well, that those people would treat the customers well, and the result would be profit. Add to this a product that people wanted to buy because of the way it made them feel about themselves and you have a successful company, but more than that, you have a cultural revolution.

    As rebellious as I was, I bought into this mission and the culture that grew up around it because it made sense to me. I felt that, as far as jobs went, I was treated well. In turn, I tried to treat the customers well. The result was mutually beneficial. The stores I worked at were profitable and I received promotions and raises. When I no longer enjoyed working in the stores, other opportunities opened up and I was able to make a lateral move into equipment service. The whole while, I still believed in the mission and I enjoyed the culture. Things change, but it was good while it lasted.

    I recently read a book called Team of Teams by General Stanly McChrystal and he mentioned something in there regarding people entering BUDS training to become Navy SEALS. He said he could always tell who would make it and who would not by their reason for being there. Those who were there to prove something to themselves inevitably failed and dropped out. It was those who were there to serve a higher purpose who made it through because, when they had nothing left to give, their mission, their higher purpose would give them the strength to move forward.

    The thing about having a mission, a vision, and a purpose that is greater than ourselves is that they make all of the struggles worthwhile. They give us clarity through the difficulties. When nothing else makes sense, when everything else seems wrong or hard or hopeless, if we believe in our mission, we can walk with purpose.

    – Robert Van Valkenburgh is co-founder of Kogen Dojo where he teaches Taikyoku Budo and Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu

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    January 31, 2019
    higher calling, Inspiration, mission, passion, purpose

  • As Our Environment Changes (So Do We)

    A strange thing happened when my wife and I visited Cambodia, her home country, a few years back. People there were surprised to find that I could speak (some) Khmer, the Cambodian language, but that was to be expected. I do not exactly look Cambodian, after all. What was strange was that people were shocked that my wife could speak Khmer and she could speak it perfectly. This was strange because she was born and raised in Cambodia and Khmer is her first language.

    When folks would hear her speak perfect Khmer, they looked confused and asked her where she learned to speak their language so well. She would explain that she was Khmer (Cambodian) and that her family home was only a few blocks away, right near the market. They found it near impossible to believe. It had been seven or so years since she had been back to Cambodia and something in her and about her had changed to the point that she no longer appeared Khmer to Cambodians.

    If cultural identity is fluid and mutable, if it is not something we are born with or are stuck with for eternity, if it is learned, picked up from our environment as we live our lives, then we can change who we are by changing the environment we place ourselves in. As our environment changes, so does our cultural identity because we are not separate from that with which we surround ourselves. This means we must be careful where and with whom we spend our time.

    – Robert Van Valkenburgh is co-founder of Kogen Dojo where he teaches Taikyoku Budo and Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu

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    January 30, 2019
    cambodia, cambodian, cultural identity, culture, environment, khmer

  • Normal is a Continuum

    For my paternal grandmother’s birthday, or for Mother’s Day one year (I do not recall which), when I was just a little kid, my father bought and delivered her very first microwave oven. I had no idea what it was or what significance it had, but she emphatically did not want it. She liked doing things her way, the way she had always done them, and she did not want to change. After quite a bit of resistance, however, she acquiesced and excepted the gift.

    Over time, my grandmother actually grew to like her microwave very much, especially for how easy it made things for her. She used it for all types of things, but mostly for vegetable side dishes for Sunday dinner for the family. I still remember her pulling steamed broccoli or mashed turnips out of the microwave while my grandfather carved meat on the counter. Those Sunday dinners, when we all gathered and ate together in her tiny little kitchen after church, are some of my fondest memories from growing up.

    What is interesting to me about that microwave and my experience of watching my grandmother resist the technology in her home is that, prior to that moment, it never really occurred to me that the world could change. More so, the world could change in a way that some people were deeply uncomfortable with. After time though, the discomfort passed, the change was accepted, and a new normal was established as if things had been that way all along. I watched this transformation take place and it fascinated me. Still, I remain resistant to change.

    – Robert Van Valkenburgh is co-founder of Kogen Dojo where he teaches Taikyoku Budo and Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu

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    January 29, 2019
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  • Uki Gatame (Knee-on-Belly): A Position of Options

    A Variation of Uki Gatame (‘floating pin) aka Knee-on-Belly

    Taikyoku Budo originated as a set of principles, a different way of looking at martial art techniques and the body skills and mechanics that make those techniques work. The idea, originated by Ellis Amdur, was to give practitioners of the so-called aiki arts, aikido specifically, a set of solo exercises for conditioning the body in a way that would both engrain the movement patterns utilized in partner practice so that those would be more instinctive in a freestyle setting and would also provide a container for a specialized kind of strength training. Budd Yuhasz then saw the universality of these principles and began applying them to grappling and striking. The history of Taikyoku Budo has been written about from multiple perspectives on the Taikyoku Mind & Body site, however, so I will get directly to the point of this particular post. Taikyoku Budo requires that the practitioner maintains his or her options throughout a martial encounter.

    One of the fundamental principles of Taikyoku Budo is that all desirable grappling positions are reversible. That is, for a position to be considered ideal in Taikyoku Budo, it must give the practitioner three strategic options: maintain, aggress, or egress. In other words, the practitioner’s goal is to get to a position from which he or she can control the opponent using a pin of some sort, do damage to the opponent with strikes, or get up and get away from the opponent with minimal resistance, all while minimizing the opponent’s ability to defend attacks or do counter damage. This means that any position from which the practitioner cannot easily disengage is not desirable because that position is not reversible.

    Many of the best positions for submission grappling (BJJ), and even MMA, such as full mount (high mount is an exception), closed guard, or side control, do not meet this requirement because the person in the less dominant position (uke or ‘receiver’) can still hold the person in the dominant position (tori or ‘taker’) in place by way of a bear hug or the like, making it difficult to disengage and escape, even from the top position, should the circumstance warrant it. Imagine being stuck in full mount while the person on the bottom holds you there so his friends can kick you in the head or securing a perfect side control and the person on bottom suddenly pulls out a knife. These are genuine problems worth considering, but no martial art is meant to do everything perfectly. With limited time to train, we must specialize so that we can maximize our skills in whatever aspect of the martial arts we feel best suits our goals.

    For Taikyoku Budo, for our ne-waza (ground grappling) training goals, uki gatame (‘floating pin’ or ‘floating hold’), commonly called knee-on-belly, knee-on-stomach, or knee ride, is the ideal position. Uki gatame is most often seen as a transitional position in submission grappling because it is not the most secure pin from which to attack the neck, arms, or legs and it is often difficult to maintain in MMA because of the slipperiness and flailing that happens in the fight, but the transitional nature of this position is exactly what makes uki gatame perfect for Taikyoku Budo, namely that it is easy to move in and out of. From uki gatame, tori can pin uke down, land devastating elbows or hammer fists, or disengage and retreat or reengage from a better angle. Uki gatame is a position of options.

    – Robert Van Valkenburgh is co-founder of Kogen Dojo where he teaches Taikyoku Budo and Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu

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    January 28, 2019
    bjj, brazilian jiu-jitsu, gracie jiu-jitsu, japanese martial arts, judo, knee on belly, kogen dojo, Martial Arts, submission grappling, taikyoku budo, uki gatame

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