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  • Robert Van Valkenburgh

  • Be The One Thing That Goes Right For Someone Today

    There is no downside to doing good work with passion and enthusiasm.

    Cafe Latte from The Big Bean Coffee Shop

    In my early 20’s, I did not make a lot of money and I did not need a lot of money. I had no credit card debt, no student loans, no mortgage, and no family to support. I made enough money as a barista at a coffee shop in downtown Annapolis to rent a room, to buy food, to go to the movies every once in a while, and to pay tuition at the martial art school I was a member of. There was not much else I wanted or needed. The job was not glamorous, but it was honest. I took pride in my work and I did my job well.

    It was not just that job, however. Before that, I was a landscaper, a record store clerk, a dishwasher, and I had several other jobs in my adolescence. In all of these jobs, I took the work seriously and I did it as if reputation and my self respect depended on it. It is not that I was a perfect employee. Far from it. I was young, arrogant, and full of unwanted opinions, but I was dependable and I got the job done. It was and is still important to me that I have a sense of purpose in my work in order to do it passionately and enthusiastically. Without purpose, I drift into apathy and distraction.

    The secret, though, is to create purpose for yourself in whatever you do. As a landscaper, for example, I made it my purpose to make the work I did look beautiful, even if it was simply mulching a garden bed. At the record store, I set out to provide customers with an enjoyable shopping experience, while also helping them find the music they sought after. When I was a dishwasher, I set out to organize the work station for maximum efficiency so that the whole process went more smoothly for everyone. With coffee, it was easy because I enjoyed the product of my labor. I enjoyed being a barista and making drinks for people. As a barista, I got to know all of my customers, their individual drinks and routines, and I provided a high quality product so that I knew that at least one thing went right for them on that day.

    -Robert Van Valkenburgh teaches Taikyoku Budo and Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu at Kogen Dojo in Severna Park, Maryland

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    March 18, 2019
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  • Enjoyment Is Its Own Reason

    Why practice a martial art that is not “the best?”

    There is a lot of criticism in martial arts circles these days around what are seen as impractical or ineffective martial arts. These are martial arts that do not participate in sportive sparring, competitive bouts, or resistance-based training. At the top of the list are arts like aikido, hapkido, kung fu, and any so-called ‘traditional’ style that is not seen in, or has been shown to be ineffective in, mixed martial arts (MMA). These styles and their practitioners have come under great scrutiny, and even mockery, as MMA becomes more popular and mainstream.

    As someone who spent twelve years of my life dedicated to traditional Korean hapkido and who discovered Brazilian jiu-jitsu (BJJ) after receiving my black belt in hapkido, I can say that I understand the criticism. Hapkido did not prepare me for submission grappling. It took me a long, long time on the BJJ mats before I had anything that resembled competency. Not only was it humbling, but it was also paradigm shifting for me to get my butt kicked in BJJ after so many years in hapkido. I realized very quickly that there was more to martial art training than what I had seen or been exposed to.

    Still, I loved hapkido, the group I trained with, and my teachers. Instead of quitting, I just trained twice as often, but I divided my time between both hapkido and BJJ, trying to reconcile in my mind and my body the disparity I felt between the two skillsets. Over time, my path shifted and hapkido led me to Taikyoku Budo, but I continued with BJJ. Taikyoku Budo, like aikido, hapkido, kung fu, or any other so-called ‘traditional’ style does not claim to be the best martial art for self-defense, for competitive sport, or even for physical fitness, so why do I continue to dedicate so much of my time, energy, and thought to it? Simply put, I find it interesting, fun, and full of limitless potential. For me, that is enough.

    -Robert Van Valkenburgh teaches Taikyoku Budo and Brazilian jiu-jitsu at Kogen Dojo

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    March 17, 2019
    aikido, aikijujutsu, bjj, brazilian jiu-jitsu, gracie jiu-jitsu, hapkido, japanese martial arts, kogen dojo, kung fu, Martial Arts, submission grappling, taikyoku budo, traditional martial arts

  • A Penny For Your Shot

    My maternal grandfather was a man of many hobbies. He liked to play, arrange, and collect music and he was an avid fly fisherman and wild game hunter. Mainly, he hunted wild birds and deer with his dogs, who he loved to watch ‘work’ as he called it. Through him and his hobbies, I was exposed to a variety of different game meats growing up. One of my favorites was pheasant.

    After my grandfather hunted and killed the pheasant, he and my grandmother would marinate and then smoke the birds at their home in upper New York state. During the holidays, my grandmother would put out an enormous spread of food, including a variety of hors d’oeuvres, one of which was the pheasant that they had smoked. My grandfather’s smoked pheasant, along with my grandmother’s homemade liver pate, was one of my favorite things to eat growing up.

    Because the pheasant was wild and hunted, as opposed to farm raised and slaughtered, there was always the chance of biting into a piece of bird shot when eating the smoked meat. My grandfather would always warn my brother and me before eating it to chew softly so we did not break our teeth on the lead shot. He then offered us a penny for each piece of shot we found in the meat while eating. This turned into a sort of game for my brother and me to see how many pieces of shot we could find and, subsequently how many pennies we could collect.

    Whether he knew it or not, by doing this my grandfather normalized hunting for me. I am not a hunter myself, but it was never weird or scary for me to think about him hunting, killing, cleaning, and cooking the food we ate at his house. This little game of trading shot for a penny made it so that being part of the hunting process, even if at the final stage of eating the game bird, was fun. More than just fun, however, this ritual taught me about how the food, once a living creature, made its way to my plate.

    -Robert Van Valkenburgh teaches Taikyoku Budo and Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu at Kogen Dojo

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    March 13, 2019
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  • Kaizen and Coffee: Bitter and Sweet

    Give yourself a little bit of sweetness to take the edge off the bitter.

    One of the easiest ways to all but guarantee failure in an activity or endeavor is to approach it with an all of nothing attitude. Since most things worth doing are inherently difficult, we are bound to trip up and fall on the way to accomplish them. If we have an all or nothing mindset, any one of these small failures could end up being the thing that make us quit altogether. If instead we look for small steps of progress along the way, when we stumble, we will see that we are still ahead of where we were.

    In Japanese culture, they refer to this principle of incremental progress as kaizen (改善). Kaizen is the process of making small changes within a system or organization that have a positive impact from the top down in an that system or organization. This principle can also be used to refer to small steps of progress in any area of one’s life that needs improvement. Small wins keep us motivated and moving forward.

    We must set ourselves and those around us up for success, not failure, from day to day. The best way to do that is to set achievable and measurable goals that increase gradually over time so that every step step forward feels like a win. Celebrate the small wins as milestones of success. Life has enough harsh and bitter moments that we need not add to them unnecessarily with daily losses and failures simply because we were too far-reaching. Give yourself tiny little moments of sweetness and satisfaction so that you can approach the next challenge with confidence and passionate dedication.

    -Robert Van Valkenburgh teaches Taikyoku Budo and Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu at Kogen Dojo

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    March 12, 2019
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  • Angle and Position Before Execution

    Angle and positioning: How do we get there from here?

    Anyone who has trained a martial art with resistance-based pressure testing or sparring knows that the correct technique in a given situation is rarely predetermined. A boxer may have a plan to knock out his opponent with his powerful right cross, but making perfect contact with perfect timing and placement is very difficult. The other boxer and his or her body has a say in the matter as well because he or she is fighting back and not all things work on all people. The same goes for a wrestler’s takedowns, a judoka’s throws, and a Brazilian jiu-jitsu practitioner’s submissions. The fighter may have a game-plan and a best move, but things change and he or she must adapt and overcome.

    Training that focuses on a single technique as an inevitable pre-determined outcome to a given scenario, with no contingencies or alternatives for when, not if, things go sideways, is not only unrealistic but maybe even counterproductive. There are many better ways to train than this, with a variety of different focal points for the training. One useful method is to focus on repeatedly attaining an advantageous angle and positional advantage without concerning oneself with the takedown, pin, or submission, at least at first.

    If you are able to consistently get to a dominant position, at the correct angle, under greater and greater amounts of stress and reisistance, application of the finishing technique becomes much easier. Angle and position give us the gift of time. They allow us to make tactical choices under significantly less pressure and threat of retaliation because, ideally, they put us out of harm’s way, even if for a brief moment. Angle and position stack the deck in our favor and give us greater control of the fight and its outcome.

    So, next time you are practicing an armbar, a takedown, a choke, or ude osae (ikkyo), pause in the final moment prior to execution and reflect. Analyze the angling of your body and the position you are in relative to your partner. What does it look and feel like? How could it be better and more secure? How can you replicate that and find that place from anywhere? With this focus, you will fail at executing the finishing move for a while, especially in randori, but eventually you will find your groove and you will notice yourself fitting into that place more and more naturally until you begin to feel unstopable to your opponents who are still concerned with minutiae and not the big picture of angle and positioning.

    -Robert Van Valkenburgh teaches Taikyoku Budo and Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu at Kogen Dojo

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    March 11, 2019
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