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  • Robert Van Valkenburgh

  • Edges And Corners

    No one tries to fold a blanket from the middle first.

    We start with the edges and the corners. 

    Why, then, do we think we can find what we are looking for in our lives, our careers, and our relationships by starting in the middle, by trying to please everyone, and by doing what is or what will be popular?

    The middle is not where change starts. 

    Change starts at the edges and the corners. 

    The middle is not interesting. 

    The middle has no character, no definition, and does not tell us anything about who we are and the change we are trying to make. 

    The edges and the corners are what give us our shape.

    They give us our character and our definition. 

    If we want to make change in our lives and in the lives of those around us, we must first try to find the edges and the corners of ourselves.

    We must focus on these edges and corners.

    We have to learn to accept, embrace, and accentuate them. 

    Over time, maybe, just maybe, others with similar edges and corners will see what we are trying to do and will say, “Yes. I am like that too. I have similar edges and corners. Thank you for showing me yours.” 

    And, this is how a community starts. 

    It starts at the edges and the corners. 

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    February 4, 2021
    change, community, corners, eccentricities, edges, self expression, self knowledge, tribe, tribes

  • The Size Of Success

    “I mixed, I shaped, and I baked every single loaf of bread, but I didn’t have a lot of room to do it. We had to expand… I had to give up a lot of control over the baking process. That was difficult for me… I slowly realized that all of the joy and satisfaction I got was not [from] counting the money at the end of the day. It was [from] me mixing, shaping, and baking every loaf. And, once it was no longer going to be me, it may as well be somebody else. So we decided to sell it… My comfort zone is touching food, being able to put it together and then offer it [to others]… I wanted that little counter that I would work behind and [where] everything that I was doing was something that I made myself.”

    -Nancy Silverton

    Every business has a perfect size.

    To not grow enough to reach this perfect size will destroy the business before it even gets started. 

    On the other hand, growing beyond the perfect size may very well destroy everything that made the business special, unique, and successful in the first place. 

    Obviously, success can be measured in many different ways. 

    Success can be measured by how much money is made. 

    It can be measured by how many lives are positively affected from day to day. 

    Or, it can be measured by how deeply people’s lives are changed because of what we do. 

    For some people, more money is the ultimate goal and its’ pursuit life’s ultimate purpose. 

    For these people, perpetual, unhindered growth is the most logical path for a business to take. 

    Others, however, get into business for different reasons. 

    Of course, even for these people, money is necessary. 

    Money keeps the lights on, and it keeps everyone fed, clothed, and sheltered.

    The difference is that, for these people, money is not the only reason. 

    For these people, success is measured in positive change, in contentment with one’s work, and in the satisfaction of knowing that the work is worth doing.

    It is measured in relationships, in connections, and in the joy that these bring to everyone involved.

    Obviously, this is not possible if the business cannot sustain itself financially. 

    But, a business that is financially viable at the cost of everyone’s happiness, contentment, and integrity is not sustainable either. 

    As we grow, develop, and progress in whatever we do, we should keep this in mind. 

    More is not always better. 

    Better is better. 

    To attain and maintain the perfect balance of monetary success and personal satisfaction should be our goal, both professionally and personally. 

    In the end, too much or too little of either can hardly be considered success. 

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    February 3, 2021
    business, change, chefs table, growth, Nancy silverton, prosperity, success

  • Expansive Adversity

    Adversity has the potential to give us empathy.

    If we allow it to, it can help us to see the world in a whole new light. 

    Experiencing our own fragility and vulnerability helps us to see how fragile and vulnerable others are.

    This experience, if we are conscious enough and willing enough, can actually increase our potential for compassion, patience, and graciousness. 

    It can expand our ability to feel and to feel for others. 

    Looked at in this way, adversity is a vehicle of growth, both personal and relational. 

    Adversity changes us. 

    Our goal should be that adversity changes us for the better so that we can, in turn, change the world for the better. 

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    February 2, 2021
    adversity, change, compassion, empathy, graciousness, growth, patience

  • Opportunity From Unpredictability

    It is important to appreciate when things are not going as we had hoped or planned for. 

    Our desires are only one small fraction of the whole of our lives. 

    The rest is what is happening or what is going to happen, regardless of what we want or how we feel about it. 

    Life happens with us or without us, whether we like it or not. 

    We may want to shape our lives or the world around us in a certain way. 

    However, there are forces at work, forces that are much more powerful and plentiful than our will alone, that also have a say. 

    When things do not happen according to our hopes or our plans, we are being given an opportunity to step outside of ourselves, to expand our perspectives, and to see the world as a much more complex and unpredictable place than we had imagined it to be. 

    If we seize upon this opportunity, we are given a glimpse into a world of new and unforeseen possibilities. 

    By limiting our lives to only that which we hope and plan for, we miss out on everything else. 

    But, by accepting and embracing life when it does not seem to go our way, instead of resisting it and fighting for that which cannot be, we, ourselves, are given the opportunity to transform into someone we never imaged possible. 

    And, through us, the world is changed as well. 

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    February 1, 2021
    change, hopes, life, opportunity, plans, possibility, transformation, unpredictability

  • Not Good Enough

    All we can do is our best. 

    Some days, however, our best will not be good enough. 

    Even when we give our all, we will sometimes come up short. 

    There is nothing else we can do. 

    We cannot go back in time. 

    We cannot start over. 

    What is done is done. 

    We must learn to make peace with our failings, our shortcomings, and our limitations.  

    They are part of who we are. 

    They are our burden to bear. 

    We must not waste this opportunity for improvement by wallowing in our failures. 

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    January 31, 2021
    failure, improvement, limitations, opportunity, shortcomings

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