It is highly unlikely that your boss calls you every morning to ask you if you feel like going to work.
Your feelings have very little to do with it.
You go to work because it is your job to do so.
Why, then, do we think that we have to wait until our feelings are right before doing something that matters?
Why are we waiting to find ‘our passion’ before seeking greatness in our lives?
What if it were our job to do something that matters, to seek greatness in our lives, and to make positive change in the world?
What if our feelings had nothing to do with it?
It is quite likely that, much like our work, the effort we put into everything we do has more to do with the results, benefits, and outcomes we will get than the feelings we have while doing it.
Instead of waiting for our feelings to be right, instead of waiting to find our passion, maybe we should start by showing up and doing the work.
Our greater purpose is not going to call us to ask us if we feel like showing up any more than our boss is.
We have to show up for our greater purpose just like we show up for our job.
That means showing up on time, without excuses, and ready to put in whatever amount of effort it takes to get the job done.
Our principles should take precedence over our desires.
What we want should never be more important to us than what is right.
The problem is that, without a clearly defined, tested, and proven set of first principles in our lives, it is very difficult to know the difference between what we desire and what is good, true, and just.
We are not born understanding this distinction.
We are born only with needs.
As we get older, these needs turn into wants.
It is not until we gain the ability to make decisions that morality becomes something we must concern ourselves with.
Even then, morality is something that must be taught.
If we are not taught do discern between right and wrong, it is very difficult to understand that what we want, or even what seems to get us what we want, is not necessarily what is right.
In fact, the more that we try to dedicate ourselves to what is right, the more we find that our desires, and sometimes even our perceived needs, are often in direct conflict with what is moral.
This does not mean that we should adjust our morality to suit our desires.
Instead, we must work diligently to train, shape, and focus our desires toward that which is right.
The more we do this, the more consistently we are able to put our principles, our morality, ahead of our desires, the more we find that what we want is actually what is right and that passion, frivolity, and selfishness are undesirable distractions from our purpose.
Our purpose is to live a principled, meaningful, and impactful life.
Holistic Budo: As it is in budo, so too it is in life. As it is in life, so too it is in budo.
Robert Van Valkenburgh is co-founder of Taikyoku Mind & Bodyand Kogen Dojo where he teaches Taikyoku Budo and Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu.
All photos by Robert Van Valkenburgh unless otherwise noted.