False meekness is not humility. Pretending to be smaller, quieter, or weaker than we actually are is no more humble than pretending to be bigger, louder, or stronger than we actually are. Both are rooted in fear and insecurity. Humility is about being right-sized, being exactly who we are without pretending to be more or … Continue reading Right-Sized Humility
It is not a secret that helping others makes us feel better about ourselves and our lives. It frees us from our self-centered problems and feelings for a little while and gives us a sense of purpose and fulfillment. A problem arises, however, when we help others in a way that compromises our values, violates … Continue reading Truth In Service
When there are things we know we should do or are told we are supposed to do, but know we are simply not going to do, it is important to be honest with ourselves and others. There is no point in deceiving ourselves or those around us by saying that we are going to do … Continue reading Honesty Up Front
When we go along with something we do not agree with just to make someone else happy, or at least to make them not unhappy, we are doing a disservice to ourselves and others. Honesty, so long as it is coupled with kindness, is always a better policy than appeasement. Like all forms of dishonesty, … Continue reading On Appeasement
Sometimes we need other people to be strong for us where we are weak. We cannot do everything. We cannot be good at everything. We cannot fix everything. If we try to be all things in all ways to all people, we are setting ourselves up for failure, frustration, and disappointment. Not only that, but … Continue reading Together In Strength And Weakness
