Forgiveness is not easy. Your trauma is part of your identity. The chains of your suffering feel like a security blanket. Your anger, fear, and sadness become your safe space. They feel comfortable and familiar. After all, they have kept you alive for this long. It feels as if to let go of your suffering … Continue reading Willing To Forgive
Healing begins with forgiveness. Whatever trauma, hardships, or wrongdoings you have suffered in the past are in the past. Keeping them with you as you move forward only serves to cause you more pain and suffering. Holding onto these experiences becomes an unbearable burden that drags you down into the pits of anger, sadness, and … Continue reading Forgiveness Heals
Criticism is easy, but it ultimately leads to misery. It helps you to believe you are separate from the person you are criticizing, and it excuses you from looking at yourself and the role you play in your own unhappiness. As long as you can point at someone else as being the problem, you do … Continue reading Critical Separation
Compassion is not necessarily a two-way street. Simply because we are willing and able to feel for others does not mean that they can or will feel for us. The kindness, graciousness, and forgiveness we feel and express are often their own reward. If we lack compassion, however, if we are cold, mean, and unforgiving, … Continue reading The Two Sides Of Compassion
When we criticize others, we open ourselves up to criticism. We set ourselves up against an impossible standard. As soon as we, ourselves, make a mistake, which will inevitably happen, our own words and attitudes toward others become ammunition to be used against us. No one is perfect. We all have flaws and make mistakes. … Continue reading The Cycle of Criticism
