Changing Values

We prove what is important to us by how we choose to spend our time, energy, and attention. We may claim that we value something, but if we constantly ignore it, put it off, or place our priorities elsewhere, our actions prove otherwise. This also means that we are able to change our values by…

Empathetic Boundaries

We can empathize with others without being moved to act.  Not all problems require a solution.  In fact, not all problems have a solution.  Some problems are simply problems.  Even if a solution is available, however, our intervention is not always necessary, advisable, or even desirable.  There are times when merely feeling for someone is…

Loving Behavior

The feeling of love, like all feelings, is something that comes and goes, but we can act with love forever if we so choose.  We can choose to behave in a loving way toward others regardless of how we feel. Our feelings are unreliable anyway.  They are tied into a variety of factors, many of…

Values Revealed

We may claim to value something, but, quite often, our actions say otherwise. What we say, or even think, and what we do are regularly at odds with one another. Even when our actions do align with what we claim are our values, it is sometimes because we are motivated by external forces to act….