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  • Robert Van Valkenburgh

  • Share Your Ideas

    “There’s never been a better time to have an idea. There’s never been a better time to be a writer, a singer, a speaker, a podcaster. There’s never been a better time to figure out how to help people than right now, but instead we spend an hour watching cat videos.”
    —Seth Godin

    A blog or a podcast is nothing more than a homing beacon for other ‘folks like us.’ It is a way of putting a signal into the world so that others can know how to find someone with whom they may share a common frequency or who may even raise their frequency. It is a way of saying, “Here I am. Here is my message. Here is my contribution. If you are drawn to this, if you can relate to this, or if you are inspired by this, join me on my journey so that we do not have to go it alone.”

    The difference between these platforms and social media is in how the content is curated and who it is curated for. On social media, content is curated by the platform itself and it is curated to lead the user, as a product, toward the real customers who are the companies buying the user’s information so that they can sell to those users. On social media, just like on television or radio, the content is curated for the advertising companies to profit off of the users’ preferences, patterns, and uninterrupted presence.

    A blog or podcast, on the other hand, is curated by the actual creator for him or herself and his or her potential, often niche, audience. It is specific, personal, and voluntary, a cumulative body of work, usually with a theme, a point of view, and a direction, as opposed to a never-ending stream of suggestions. It is a statement about the creator and his or her ideas, opinions, experiences, and perspective as a means of contributing to the cultural conversation in a helpful, non-invasive way that ideally sparks a movement, no matter how small, in a new and interesting direction by and for ‘folks like us.’

    Note: Thank you Christian Hipsky at the Spiritual Defense blog for finding enough value in my experience and opinion to ask me a question that made me think about why I blog.


    Holistic Budo: As it is in budo, so too it is in life. As it is in life, so too it is in budo.

    Robert Van Valkenburgh is co-founder of Taikyoku Mind & Body and Kogen Dojo where he teaches Taikyoku Budo and Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu.

    All photos by Robert Van Valkenburgh unless otherwise noted.

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    May 14, 2020
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  • An Aesthetic View Of Morality

    Our choices are not always as clear as right or wrong; we must sometimes choose between beauty and ugliness.

    We often think of morality in terms of black and white, good and bad, right and wrong. This type of either/or thinking makes us feel better about the path we have chosen because it places us in a position of moral superiority to those who have made a different choice from us. We tell ourselves that we are on the righteous path and that others who believe or behave differently are on the path of evil and corruption.

    We claim special knowledge with these kinds of distinctions. They are predicated on the belief that we have unique insight into the truth of things, giving us the ability to see beyond the lies and deceptions that others fall prey to so easily. Ours is authentic wisdom and only we are educated and inspired enough to know, to see, to hear, and to speak the truth, while all who do not believe as we do are necessarily either foolish, immoral, or both.

    It is true that some beliefs and behaviors are undeniably more honorable, righteous, and just than their reprehensible, unethical, and despicable opposites. Quite often, however, this distinction has more to do with benevolent or malicious intent than anything else and most people, ourselves included, in spite of flawed beliefs and imperfect actions, do not actually want to do harm to others. We are far better off, instead of being the constant judge and jury of what is right and wrong, a position which is not only unhelpful, but also quite exhausting, looking at our own beliefs and behaviors, and asking ourselves in each moment whether, through them, we are adding more beauty or more ugliness to the world.


    Holistic Budo: As it is in budo, so too it is in life. As it is in life, so too it is in budo.

    Robert Van Valkenburgh is co-founder of Taikyoku Mind & Body and Kogen Dojo where he teaches Taikyoku Budo and Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu.

    All photos by Robert Van Valkenburgh unless otherwise noted.

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    May 13, 2020
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  • People Like Us

    The path to community begins with self discovery and self acceptance.

    If we look deeply enough at the broad spectrum of our tastes and preferences, we will find a theme that runs throughout them and ties them all together. Within this theme of truth about what we like and dislike, seek out and avoid, what brings us joy or sadness, comfort or pain, excitement or fear, we may discover who we are at our core. We may gain a glimpse into our essential nature, or at least its most common manifestations and expressions.

    This theme of tastes and preferences is what makes us uniquely who we are, but we are not, we cannot be totally alone in this. By discovering who we are and what we like (or do not like), we also discover a potential bond with others who are also like us. There may be many others or there may only be a few, but there are always others who think, feel, and act in a way that is in harmony with our essential natures.

    This group of people may be different from our family and perhaps even from our closest friends. These kindred spirits may in fact be folks we have never met, but they are out there somewhere. They are the “people like us [who] do things like this” that Seth Godin refers to. They are our spiritual tribe. They are the folks with whom we share a bond of essence and with whom, if we can make a real life connection, we can do truly great things for other “people like us [who] do things like this,” but first we must figure out who we are.


    Holistic Budo: As it is in budo, so too it is in life. As it is in life, so too it is in budo.

    Robert Van Valkenburgh is co-founder of Taikyoku Mind & Body and Kogen Dojo where he teaches Taikyoku Budo and Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu.

    All photos by Robert Van Valkenburgh unless otherwise noted.

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    May 12, 2020
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  • Detachment From Desire (On Problem Solving)

    Attachment to a desired outcome blinds us to the actual problem in front of us and, therefore, also to its solution.

    In order to approach a problem objectively, intelligently, and decisively, we must first step back from it so that we can see it clearly, without the distractions of emotion or opinion.

    We must look at it as it is, separate from us or our desires, our needs, our hopes, and our fears.

    A problem does not care how we feel about it or what we want from it. It simply is. The solution is the same.


    Holistic Budo: As it is in budo, so too it is in life. As it is in life, so too it is in budo.

    Robert Van Valkenburgh is co-founder of Taikyoku Mind & Body and Kogen Dojo where he teaches Taikyoku Budo and Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu.

    All photos by Robert Van Valkenburgh unless otherwise noted.

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    May 11, 2020
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  • To Those Who So Often Put Others First (Happy Mother’s Day)

    The essence of motherliness is to do for others with a spirit of love, generosity, and protection.

    When we first opened Kogen Dojo, one of the primary considerations was how to best serve the female members of our community, especially the mothers to our community’s children. For context, all three of the founders of Kogen are men, but we are also sons, husbands (or have been at one time), and fathers to daughters. As such, we decided it would be best to consult with a woman who was not only a mother and Brazilian jiu-jitsu practitioner, but who also taught women’s self-defense classes at our affiliate headquarters.

    Our discussions included questions about how to attract more women to martial arts, what to teach in women’s-only classes, and some of the barriers women faced in wanting to try martial arts, even if simply for self-defense. When the discussion turned to the subject of scheduling, Jen, the woman with whom we were consulting, said something that struck me and continues to be food for thought for me to this day. She said, “It is difficult for a mother to commit to self-defense classes because she will always put the needs of her family ahead of her own.”

    She went on to explain that, even if a mother committed to and paid for a regularly scheduled class for herself, if a scheduling conflict arose wherein she had to choose between her own activity and some activity or event for her family, she would almost always put her family’s needs ahead of her own. I am reminded of this sentiment often when I think about what it means for a woman to be a mother, what it means for a person to be so loving and so generous as to regularly sacrifice her needs and her interests in order to care for, nurture, and protect her loved ones. I am also reminded that those who do so much for others also deserve the same from us.

    Thank you and Happy Mother’s Day!


    Holistic Budo: As it is in budo, so too it is in life. As it is in life, so too it is in budo.

    Robert Van Valkenburgh is co-founder of Taikyoku Mind & Body and Kogen Dojo where he teaches Taikyoku Budo and Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu.

    All photos by Robert Van Valkenburgh unless otherwise noted. Artwork by Ana.

    Follow Robert Van Valkenburgh and Holistic Budo on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Tumblr, and LinkedIn.

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    May 10, 2020
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