An Appropriate Standard

Our relationships do not have to be perfect.  They simply need to be appropriate.  Our relationships need to have the appropriate amount of compassion, generosity, and graciousness.  They also need the appropriate distance and boundaries.  This is simple, but it is certainly not easy.  Each relationship is different, requiring its own unique combination of characteristics. …

Failing Perfectly

No matter how hard we try and how well we plan and prepare, something will inevitably go wrong at some point along the way. This is part of the process. We cannot account for every variable and every contingency. And, we especially cannot wait to take action until after every variable and every contingency is…

Good Enough For Folk Music

Good enough is a good enough beginning. Years ago, a few friends of mine and myself drove to The State Theatre in Falls Church, Virginia to see the blues* musician Taj Mahal do a rare acoustic solo performance for a charity called Music Maker Relief Foundation, an organization that helps to provide financial relief to…

Imperfection and Compassion

The path to compassion begins by accepting that perfection is fantasy. Perfection is simply something that we imagine, an unattainable ideal that we project onto ourselves and others. Perfection is a false idea and a false ideal. It is our belief in perfection, for ourselves and others that sets us up to be disappointed when…