For Better And Worse (On Healing)

Being afraid of being judged is not the same as being tired of being judged. While we must learn to come to terms with the fact that, no matter who we are or what we do, not everyone will like us, we may never truly be comfortable with it. Criticism, condemnation, and judgement from others…

The Balance Of Give And Take

Some people are natural givers and others are natural takers, but both extremes can be equally destructive if not properly balanced with their opposite. When we describe someone as a taker, a person who is uncompromisingly selfish and who demands more of a relationship than he or she is willing to give back to it,…

Aligning Consciences (The Group And The Individual)

Every group has a conscience, but we must ask ourselves whether that conscience aligns with our own. Some extreme examples notwithstanding, each of us has a conscience, an inner compass if you will, that, if we allow it to, guides our attitudes, outlooks, and decisions. Whenever two or more people gather together for any purpose,…

Finding Comfort And Company

We are not meant to be alone, but it is far better to pursue our own path in solitude than to lose ourselves in the pursuit of company. We all need a place we can go where we are able to be ourselves. We need a place where we can live out loud, where we…

A Single Act Of Kindness

We never know when our small act of kindness will change someone else’s entire life for the better. When I first started Brazilian jiu-jitsu (BJJ) in early 2013, I had already done many years of martial art training, specifically traditional Korean hapkido. I loved hapkido and still do for what it is. Not only was…