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  • Robert Van Valkenburgh

  • Overwhelmed Together

    There will be times in our lives when what is asked of us will feel as if it is simply too much for us to handle on our own. 

    The expectations will feel too high. The burdens will seem to be too much to bear. 

    It will be difficult for us to see a way forward and we will begin to doubt ourselves, our abilities, and our capabilities. 

    We will want to give up. 

    We will feel as though quitting is the only option. 

    It is important for us to understand that we are not unique in this experience. 

    We are not the first to feel this way, nor will we be the last. 

    In fact, it is quite likely that everyone feels this way from time to time. 

    It is also quite likely that the more responsible we are, the more we take ownership for our lives and the roles we play within them, the more we will want to succeed. 

    When the task at hand seems to be impossible, this will frustrate us and confuse us. 

    We do not want to fail, but we do not see how we can be successful under the circumstances we face. 

    It is in these times, when we feel at our lowest and most helpless, that we must be patient and we must seek out help from others. 

    Not only that, we must also seek to be helpful to others. 

    We need to be reminded that we are not in this struggle alone, that everyone feels overwhelmed at one point or another, and that we all need help from time to time. 

    This is the way forward, even when it feels as if there is not one. 

    The way forward is together. 

    It is up to us to seek out and create this togetherness, however. 

    It will not happen on its own. 

    We have to be active participants in our lives and in the lives of those around us if we are going to find a solution to the problems life throws at us. 

    We cannot do it alone. 

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    March 1, 2021
    burdens, community, difficulty, struggles, togetherness

  • Regret Is Optional

    Difficulty is inevitable, but regret is a choice. 

    No matter what path we choose, we will face difficulty along the way. 

    This cannot be avoided. 

    Of course, some paths will be easier than others, but none will be free of difficulty. 

    If difficulty is inevitable, the choice we must make, then, is not which path will be easy, but which path will lead us to less regret. 

    Regret is optional. 

    Regret is the result of making choices we would rather not have made or accepting compromises we would rather not have accepted. 

    Regret is not the result of what is done to us, but of what we do to ourselves whether by misguided action or inaction. 

    It is often tempting to flip regret around and to make ourselves out to be the victims of our circumstances, relationships, or associations, but this is a trap. 

    If we are honest with ourselves, wherever we find regret, we will also find that the majority of the culpability lies with us.

    Blame offers no solutions, only excuses. 

    Regret, properly understood, leave no room for such things. 

    Regret is a teacher and should be embraced as such, not misdirected toward someone or something else. 

    Once we experience real, lifelong, unconsolable regret, we learn an invaluable lesson. 

    We learn that when we act or fail to act out of fear, we guarantee our suffering. 

    While the courage to act in spite of fear does not guarantee us a life of ease and safety, it does guarantee that we will have fewer regrets. 

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    February 28, 2021
    blame, bravery, choice, compromise, courage, fear, regret

  • Deciding On Traction

    “I’m going to never think about these knobs again. I’m never going to think about this guitar again. These are the settings and I’m now just going to worry about being creative with the sound I have… I’ve got the guitar I’ve got and now I’m going to put all of my energy into imagination and creativity… embracing those limitations helped me tremendously creatively.” 

    -Tom Morello 

    At some point in our creative process, we have to make a decision if we really want to make traction. 

    We have to decide to stop looking for more and better tools so that we can focus on what we have and get better at using that.

    It is easy to tell ourselves that we will do better work with better tools and, while this may be true, we have to come to recognize that this is also a means of procrastination and the tools do not do the work.

    We do. 

    The tools are not creative.

    We are. 

    Our tools are simply there to help us to better and more easily express ourselves creatively. 

    If we put all of our time and energy into the tools we believe that we require in order to master our craft, we may never actually master our craft. 

    We are far better served by establishing, accepting, and embracing limitations. 

    These limitations give us boundaries. 

    They put us in a single lane within which we can move forward. 

    Without boundaries, we tend to be all over the place. 

    We get distracted and lose focus. 

    By giving ourselves limitations, by setting boundaries around the creative work we do, we allow ourselves to focus on the depth of our work. 

    Depth, after all, is where expertise and mastery lie. 

    If we hope to master our craft, to be experts in our field, no matter how narrow that field may be, we have to start by working with the tools we have. 

    Our preferences may change over time, but we have to start somewhere. 

    We may as well start here, now, with what is available to us in this moment. 

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    February 27, 2021
    boundaries, creativity, depth, limitations, traction

  • Distracted By Options

    Our progress is hindered by having too many options.

    Too many options distract us from our path, from our goals, and from our target.

    They make it easy to lose focus, to get distracted, and to chase after the things that do not matter.

    Instead of seeking more options, we should spend our time and energy seeking clarity.

    Clarity guides us toward that which matters most.

    If we can see clearly, we can make better decisions and our actions will be more meaningful and effective.

    Intentionally limiting our options forces us toward a life of depth instead of variety, but this is where meaning is found.

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    February 26, 2021
    clarity, depth, meaning, options, variety

  • Time To Live

    A little time goes a long way. 

    With time being our only truly non-renewable resource, how we spend it matters. 
    If we use our time doing our best to avoid intimacy, connection, and deep, meaningful relationships, we should not be overly surprised when we find ourselves alone and lonely. 

    If, on the other hand, we use our time getting closer with others, getting to know them, and allowing them to get to know us, we have will created an investment with our time. 

    This does not necessarily mean that our investment will always pay off, especially not immediately. 

    Some relationships will simply never work out no matter how hard we try.

    It does mean, however, that we give ourselves the opportunity to truly experience life in all of its depth. 

    In order to this, however, we have to make ourselves vulnerable. 

    We have to let our guard down. 

    We have to open up and risk being hurt. 

    If we are unwilling to do this, we will never know the best that life has to offer.

    We will never experience the depths of joy, connection, and companionship if we do not expose ourselves to the possibility of losing them and the pain that will surely bring us. 

    Conversely, in attempting to shield ourselves from the pain that comes from intimacy denied, betrayed, or broken, we still cannot truly protect ourselves against the despair, loneliness, and isolation that comes with it. 

    In fact, the very act of self-protection all but guarantees that we will experience these things, but without any of the benefits of their opposites. 

    If we want to experience the best of life, the best of ourselves, and the best of others, we have to invest in our relationships and this starts with giving away some of our time. 

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    February 25, 2021
    companionship, connection, investment, joy, life, relationships, time

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