We may be frustrated at the circumstances we find ourselves in, but anger does not lead to solutions.
Frustration is a natural response to hindered progress, growth, and forward momentum.
When we find ourselves slowed down, stopped, or even set back, it is quite easy to feel frustrated.
The more effort, planning, and preparation we put into the path we are on, the more true this is.
We must be careful to not allow our frustration to turn to anger, however.
While frustration can be the fuel we need to get us through an undesirable situation, anger is not.
In fact, anger uses us as fuel.
Anger burns us up until nothing good is left to move forward for or with.
And, anger creates all sorts of collateral damage in its wake.
It destroys hope, possibility, and relationships and gives us nothing good in return.
When frustrated, we must make a choice.
We can choose to use our frustration to come up with creative solutions to the problems we face or we can resign ourselves to anger.
The former option will take us on a new adventure with new experiences and possibilities.
The latter option will take us down the dark path of misery, loneliness, and regret.
Holistic Budo: As it is in budo, so too it is in life. As it is in life, so too it is in budo.
Robert Van Valkenburgh is co-founder of Kogen Dojo Self Defense Academy where he teaches Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu.
All photos by Robert Van Valkenburgh unless otherwise noted.*
*Robert Van Valkenburgh’s black and white photography can be seen at My Darkness To Light
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