Self-Care is Anti-Selfish

Taking care of ourselves is not the same as only caring about ourselves. By starting every day doing something for ourselves, creating something from within ourselves, we can give freely of ourselves for the remainder of the day without regret. Approaching our day like this, front-loading it with time to meditate, time to move, and…

Moving Through Our Egos in Jiu-Jitsu

Life is expressed through motion and our jiu-jitsu should reflect that. In Brazilian jiu-jitsu, the best time to attack or sweep is when our opponent is moving to escape or pass and the best time to escape or pass is when our opponent is trying to attack or sweep. Movement creates opportunities. The goal of…

Be Yourself For Others

Often, the struggle we face in our lives is between what other people want from us and what we actually want for ourselves. When we are young, we are told that we can be anything we want to be when we grow up, but, as we get older, we are also told that we must…

Desire Is Not Doing

We can talk about what we want forever, but no one will take us seriously until we actually take action. Basing our lives on shoulds, oughts, and wants does nothing to move us in the direction of our actual desires. In fact, quite often, we find ourselves saying the things we want as a way…

Efficiency is Intentional Nonresistance

Force against resistance begets more resistance. While the goal of grappling, whether manifested as a throw, a pin, or a submission, is ultimately to impose our will on another person, this is much more easily accomplished if we can create circumstances within which our opponent actually gives us we want, instead of having to take…