What Do You See?

When you look at someone you love, do you see the ways in which they are being their best or the ways in which they are failing to meet your expectations, and perhaps even their own? In our own ways, we are all trying. Some of us have more success than others and some of…

Remove The Bad (But Nurture The Good)

We must work through the bad, but we must not forget to also tend to the good. It is often said that the good aspects of a relationship simply work themselves out. This is not always true. If we do not acknowledge them, tend to them, and encourage them, even the strongest parts of a…

Imperfection and Compassion

The path to compassion begins by accepting that perfection is fantasy. Perfection is simply something that we imagine, an unattainable ideal that we project onto ourselves and others. Perfection is a false idea and a false ideal. It is our belief in perfection, for ourselves and others that sets us up to be disappointed when…

What If I Mess Up?

The blank pages are there for when, not if, we make a mistake. It was early in the morning. So early, in fact, that the sun was still not up. My wife, daughter, and I were wide awake, even if a bit dazed, in a new timezone, after a long day of traveling and a…

The Impracticality of Regret

Practicality precedes longterm happiness, but it must not come at the cost of it. Once we reach the age wherein we begin to become responsible for ourselves, there are certain necessities that we must consider. These are the needs that, for our own survival, must precede our wants. We must have food, clothing, and shelter…