It is important to not be so vexed by another person’s behavior that we find ourselves mimicking it in response.
We are all susceptible to having our feelings hurt, especially when we feel slighted, embarrassed, or taken advantage of.
This is only natural.
We are emotional creatures.
But, it is what we do with these hurt feelings that defines us and our character.
Whether our provocateur slighted us intentionally or not is unimportant.
We must remain in control of our thoughts, words, and deeds.
We cannot allow ourselves to be swayed by the already questionable behavior of others, especially not to the point where we begin to speak and act in the same way as our offenders.
We must remember that we all make mistakes.
We all do and say things we are not proud of.
We must not allow the mistakes of others to become our mistakes as well.
Holistic Budo: As it is in budo, so too it is in life. As it is in life, so too it is in budo.
Robert Van Valkenburgh is co-founder of Kogen Dojo Self Defense Academy where he teaches Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu.
All photos by Robert Van Valkenburgh unless otherwise noted.
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