Sometimes we need other people to be strong for us where we are weak.
We cannot do everything.
We cannot be good at everything.
We cannot fix everything.
If we try to be all things in all ways to all people, we are setting ourselves up for failure, frustration, and disappointment.
Not only that, but we are setting those who rely on us up for the same.
We must be honest with ourselves about our capabilities and our limitations.
And, we must be honest with others about these as well.
The onus is on us to know our strengths, our weaknesses, and where these overlap.
It is our responsibility to understand and accept ourselves for who we are and who we are not.
Without self-honesty, we will overreach, overextend, and overstep our bounds.
It is far better to admit that we need help in some aspects of our lives than to fail because of pride, denial, or self-ignorance.
We are not meant to be solitary creatures, surviving on our own and doing everything ourselves.
We are meant to work together, to cover for each other, and to build and grow together so that the result of our combined efforts, skills, and attributes is greater than the sum of our individual parts could ever be.
Holistic Budo: As it is in budo, so too it is in life. As it is in life, so too it is in budo.
Robert Van Valkenburgh is co-founder of Kogen Dojo Self Defense Academy where he teaches Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu.
All photos by Robert Van Valkenburgh unless otherwise noted.
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