Tag: feelings

• Choose How You Feel

  You get to choose how you feel about this.

  You do not have to take it personally.

  It does not have to be perceived as a slight against you.

  What others do does not have to concern you or bother you.

  It probably has nothing to do with you.

  Most people are thinking about themselves, not about you.

  But what others think about you is none of your business anyway.

  You are responsible for your own thoughts, attitudes, and actions.

  Do not let what others think, say, or do determine your fate.

  Choose your own path and make your own way.

  With the right attitude and the right focus, and with your actions aligned toward these, the right people will accompany you along the way.

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  November 6, 2023

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• Choosing To Feel

  When you are going through something difficult or painful, you get to choose how you respond to the experience.

  You can either question why you have to go through this.

  Or you can be grateful that you get to go through this.

  Obviously, it is not easy to be grateful for all difficult or painful experiences.

  Nor should you let anyone tell you how to feel.

  Your experience and your feelings are yours alone.

  No one would suggest that trauma or injury are joyful experiences, for example.

  However, if you are experiencing pain and difficulty in your life, it means you are alive, not in the obvious sense that your heart is beating, but in the sense that to live is to experience pain and difficulty.

  To live is to feel and to feel is to feel everything, good and bad.

  To deny yourself this experience, to ignore or reject pain and difficulty, or to push away or shut down what you perceive to be negative feelings or emotions, is to deny yourself the opportunity to truly live.

  And yet, it is still your choice to make, as no one can live your life for you.

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  November 5, 2023

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• Logic And Feelings

  Logic rarely overcomes emotion and emotion is always a factor in every interaction.

  People’s feelings are quite powerful.

  They tend to dictate how and what we think much more than we expect.

  It seems reasonable to assume that you can talk people out of their feelings, but this is easier said than done.

  Furthermore, even if you are able to talk someone out of the way they feel, the change may not be genuine and it may not stick.

  It might seem counterintuitive, but people’s emotions need to be understood and addressed emotionally.

  Empathy is a much more effective tool for responding to emotions than logic is.

  Empathy allows you to understand other people’s feelings at the level of feelings instead of thought.

  It allows you to go deeper and affect change in a more meaningful way than logic alone can accomplish when dealing with feelings.

  Or you may not affect change at all, but at least you will not be fruitlessly bumping up against a wall of feelings with a head full of logic.

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  November 2, 2023

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• Understanding Our Feelings

  It is often difficult to decipher the emotions we experience at any given time. 

  We are complex creatures with complex emotional and psychological natures. 

  We do not really have a clean line of perception to the root of what we feel or why. 

  Our personal histories, relationships, environment, and even our own thoughts, beliefs, and opinions all play a part in how we feel about things, but these often get all jumbled up inside us so it is difficult to decipher what is what. 

  We may feel one thing on the surface, but beneath that feeling is something entirely different. 

  A circumstance or interaction may bring up certain feelings, seemingly out of nowhere, without any real explanation. 

  Sometimes we feel so intensely about something that it affects our whole lives without our even knowing why. 

  Add to all of this the fact that we spend an insane about of time trying to deny, reject, deflect, and suppress our feelings, and we have a very confusing situation indeed. 

  There is no real solution to the conundrum that is our emotions, but it does seem that it is better to acknowledge and embrace what we feel, to sit with it and get to know it, and to make friends with it, than it is to try to ignore or avoid it because we cannot simply wish away our feelings. 

  Our feelings are ours and we have to learn to live with them or they will control the way we live. 

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  September 7, 2023

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• Working With Nervousness

  Being nervous about something that matters to you is normal.

  Nervousness, like any other feeling, should not be ignored or denied.

  You cannot simply wish or push away your feelings and expect them to disappear.

  Your feelings exist, they are real, and they must be acknowledged.

  If not, you actually give them power to rule over you in darkness.

  It is far better to shine the light of truth on your feelings, to lean into them, and to ask them what they are trying to teach you.

  Your feelings are not something happening to you.

  They are part of you.

  Learn to accept them.

  When you are nervous, smile at your nervousness, welcome it in, and sit with it.

  Embrace it like an old friend.

  You have both been here before and you will be here again.

  It is time to get to work, together.

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  May 20, 2023

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